According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Film legend Gene Hackman and his wife, Betsy Arakawa, tragically found dead at home.
Legendary Actor Gene Hackman and Wife Betsy Arakawa Found Deceased in Their Santa Fe Home
Hollywood and the world at large are mourning the loss of legendary actor Gene Hackman and his wife, classical pianist Betsy Arakawa, who were found dead at their Santa Fe, New Mexico residence. Authorities confirmed the heartbreaking discovery at their Sunset Trail home, where the couple’s beloved dog was also found deceased. As the Santa Fe County Sheriff’s Office investigates, early findings suggest a potential environmental hazard, with carbon monoxide poisoning emerging as a leading theory. No evidence of foul play has been reported.
A Tragic Discovery in Santa Fe
On what seemed like an ordinary afternoon, Santa Fe law enforcement conducted a welfare check at the Hackman-Arakawa residence. Upon arrival, officers encountered a tragic scene, with the once-vibrant couple and their pet lifeless in their home. The Sheriff’s Office issued an official statement confirming the deaths and emphasized that there is currently no indication of foul play. Sheriff Adan Mendoza reassured the public, stating, “This is an ongoing investigation, and while no evidence of criminal activity has been found, we are working diligently to determine the exact cause of death.”
Authorities are now conducting thorough examinations of the property’s heating systems, ventilation, and appliances to identify any environmental factors that may have contributed to this devastating loss.
Investigating Carbon Monoxide Poisoning
One of the primary theories being explored is carbon monoxide poisoning—a silent, odorless killer that can accumulate due to faulty heating systems or ventilation failures. Investigators are analyzing maintenance records, inspecting heating units, and conducting air quality tests to determine whether exposure to toxic gas played a role in the deaths. Given Hackman’s advanced age, even minimal exposure could have had dire consequences.
Forensic teams continue to work diligently to piece together the circumstances, with no final conclusions drawn as of yet.
Gene Hackman’s Enduring Legacy in Cinema
Gene Hackman’s passing marks the end of an era for the film industry. Over his illustrious 50-year career, he captivated audiences with unforgettable performances across various genres. His breakout role as Detective Jimmy “Popeye” Doyle in The French Connection earned him an Academy Award and cemented his place in Hollywood history. Hackman’s versatility shone in roles ranging from the cunning Lex Luthor in Superman to the introspective antihero in Unforgiven, a defining work in modern Western cinema.
Renowned for his intensity, depth, and authenticity, Hackman’s work left an indelible mark on the industry. He received numerous accolades, including multiple Academy Awards, and remains an enduring inspiration to generations of actors and filmmakers.
The Life and Legacy of Betsy Arakawa
Though less publicly known, Betsy Arakawa was an accomplished classical pianist and a respected figure in artistic circles. Married to Hackman since 1991, she played a pivotal role in his life, providing unwavering support throughout his career. Their relationship was built on mutual admiration, a shared passion for the arts, and a preference for a quieter life away from Hollywood’s spotlight.
The couple’s decision to settle in Santa Fe reflected their desire for a peaceful retreat where they could focus on their creative endeavors. Their home was a sanctuary filled with music, film, and artistic expression—a testament to their lifelong dedication to the arts.
Mourning a Great Loss
The devastating news has resonated deeply within both the Santa Fe community and the global entertainment industry. Local residents have expressed their sorrow, sharing heartfelt tributes and memories of the couple’s contributions to the area’s cultural life. Meanwhile, Hollywood has responded with an outpouring of grief, as colleagues and admirers remember Hackman’s immense impact on cinema.
Social media has been flooded with messages celebrating Hackman’s legendary performances, with fans revisiting his iconic roles. Film festivals and cultural institutions are expected to dedicate retrospectives to his body of work, ensuring that his contributions to the art of storytelling will not be forgotten.
Ongoing Investigation and Next Steps
Authorities continue their thorough investigation into the cause of death, with forensic teams meticulously analyzing the scene. Sheriff Mendoza emphasized that while early indications suggest an environmental hazard, they are leaving no stone unturned in determining the precise circumstances. Investigators are urging anyone with relevant information to come forward, as even minor details could be crucial in understanding what transpired.
Honoring Their Memory
The loss of Gene Hackman and Betsy Arakawa is a profound tragedy, not just for their family and friends but for the artistic community and all who admired their work. Hackman’s powerful performances and Arakawa’s contributions to music enriched countless lives, leaving behind a legacy that will endure for generations.
As the world awaits further details from the investigation, their memory continues to live on through the art they created. Their journey—marked by dedication, talent, and an unwavering commitment to their craft—reminds us of the transformative power of storytelling and the lasting impact of a life well lived.
The investigation remains ongoing, with updates expected in the coming days. Meanwhile, fans, colleagues, and the Santa Fe community will continue to celebrate the extraordinary lives of Gene Hackman and Betsy Arakawa, whose influence will be felt for years to come.
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