During what I thought was a normal hospital visit, my husband’s nurse pulled me aside and whispered: “Listen, I don’t want to alarm you, but… LOOK UNDER YOUR HUSBAND’S BED when you go back to the room.” I wasn’t prepared for what I found and it had me reaching for my phone to dial 911.
I’m still reeling as I write this. Part of me wants to laugh at how ridiculous it all turned out, but the other part? The other part can’t stop replaying every stressful second of last Friday night.
An anxious woman | Source: Midjourney
Ethan, my husband, has been in the hospital for over a week now. He had surgery to fix an old injury that had been bothering him for years — a complication with his hip that finally caught up with him. He’s doing better now, recovering, but it hasn’t been easy. Between working, taking care of the kids, and making sure he’s comfortable, my days have been… hectic, to say the least.
“Mom, when’s Dad coming home?” Tommy had asked that morning, pushing his cereal around his bowl.
“Soon, sweetie,” I’d replied, trying to hide the exhaustion in my voice. “He needs to get stronger first.”
“But I miss him,” Sarah had chimed in, her bottom lip trembling. “It’s not the same without him here.”
“I know, baby. I miss him too. More than you know.” I’d pulled them both into a tight hug, breathing in their familiar scents and drawing strength from their warmth.
A man in a hospital ward | Source: Midjourney
Normally, I visit Ethan in the mornings or afternoons while the kids are at school. But last Friday, my dad offered to take the kids for the night.
“You look like you could use a break,” he’d said, his eyes full of concern. “When was the last time you had a full night’s sleep?”
I couldn’t remember, honestly. But his offer felt like a lifeline. I thought it was a wonderful idea to surprise Ethan with an evening visit. And maybe brighten his day a little.
When I walked into his hospital room, he looked up from his phone and immediately froze.
“Hey,” I said, smiling as I set my bag down on the chair. “You weren’t expecting me, huh?”
A startled man | Source: Midjourney
He blinked a couple of times and gave me a nervous laugh. “No. I mean, uh, didn’t you come earlier today?”
“I did. But I had some extra time, so here I am.” I shrugged, sitting down next to him. “I miss you, you know.”
“Sam…” he whispered, reaching for my hand but stopping halfway. “You shouldn’t… I mean, you must be exhausted. The kids —”
“The kids are with Dad,” I interrupted, studying his face. Something in his expression made my stomach twist. “They miss you so much, Ethan. Sarah cried again this morning.”
His face crumpled for a moment. “God, I hate this. Being stuck here, leaving you to handle everything…”
A woman standing at a hospital ward doorway and waving her hand | Source: Midjourney
“Hey, that’s what marriage is about, right? In sickness and in health?” I tried to joke, but my voice caught slightly.
Ethan smiled, but there was this… I don’t know, distracted look in his eyes. Like his brain was working overtime on something else.
“You okay?” I asked, watching him closely. “You seem… different tonight.”
“Yeah, yeah, I’m fine.” He picked at the corner of his blanket. “How are the kids?”
We made small talk for a bit, and I peeled an apple for him — his favorite snack. But the whole time, I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was off. Ethan’s answers were shorter than usual. And he kept glancing at the door.
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“Remember when we first started dating?” I said, trying to fill the uncomfortable silence. “You used to bring me apples every day because you heard somewhere that ‘an apple a day keeps the doctor away.'”
He laughed, but it sounded strained.
“Ethan,” I reached for his hand again, and this time he let me take it. “Talk to me. What’s going on? Are you in pain? Should I call the nurse?”
A nervous man staring at someone | Source: Midjourney
“No!” he said too quickly, then softened his tone. “No, I’m fine. Really. Just… tired.”
I tried not to overthink it. I figured maybe he was just tired. Surgery takes a toll, right?
But then, on my way to toss the apple peelings in the trashcan outside the ward, I ran into Carla.
Carla is one of Ethan’s nurses. She’s warm, chatty, and the kind of person who instantly puts you at ease. We’d spoken a few times before, but this time, she seemed anxious.
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She stepped into my path, glancing nervously down the hall before lowering her voice. “Can I talk to you for a second?”
“Of course. What’s up?”
Her hands were trembling slightly as she fidgeted with her ID badge. “I shouldn’t be doing this. We’re not supposed to get involved in patients’ personal lives, but…”
“Carla,” I grabbed her arm gently, my heart starting to race. “You’re scaring me. Is something wrong with Ethan? Did the tests show something?”
She shook her head quickly. “No, no, it’s not medical. It’s…” She bit her lip. Her eyes darted toward Ethan’s room, and her voice dropped even lower. “Listen, I don’t want to alarm you, but… look under your husband’s bed when you go back to the room.”
I frowned, confused. “Under his bed? Why?”
A confused woman frowning | Source: Midjourney
“Just trust me,” she said quickly, her expression almost pleading. “You’ll understand when you see it.”
“Carla, please,” my voice cracked slightly. “If something’s wrong, just tell me. I can handle it.”
“I can’t,” she whispered, looking over her shoulder. “But you need to know. Just… look.”
She turned and walked away, leaving me standing there, a pit of dread growing in my stomach.
What was she talking about? Was something wrong with Ethan? Was there some kind of secret I should’ve noticed?
“Wait!” I called after her, but she already left, her shoes squeaking against the linoleum floor.
A horrified woman calling out to someone | Source: Midjourney
I took a deep breath and headed back to the room, trying to act normal. My hands were shaking so badly that I had to shove them into my pockets.
Ethan was lying back in his bed, scrolling through his phone again.
“Everything okay?” he asked as I sat down.
“Yeah. Just threw out some trash.”
But my mind was racing. Carla’s words echoed in my head: “Look under his bed.”
I needed an excuse. Something casual. I quickly grabbed the apple I’d been peeling earlier and pretended to drop it.
A woman holding an apple | Source: Midjourney
“Oops,” I said, crouching down.
That’s when I saw it. My heart stopped.
There, under the bed, were eyes… staring back at me.
At first, I thought I was imagining things. But no. There was a woman crouched there, staring back at me like a deer caught in headlights.
“What the —” I shot to my feet. “Who the hell are you? What are you doing under my husband’s bed?”
Ethan’s heart monitor started beeping faster. “Wait, wait… Samantha, it’s not what you —”
“Don’t you dare ‘wait’ me! After everything we’ve been through? After ten years of being together?”
Grayscale shot of a woman hiding | Source: Midjourney
“Sam, please —”
I didn’t let him finish. “What is she doing here, Ethan?” My hands were shaking as I grabbed my phone. “I’m calling the police. What is this? Some kind of joke?”
The woman scrambled out from under the bed, her face as red as a firetruck. She looked mortified.
“Please!” Ethan started to panic. He reached for my phone, wincing as the movement pulled at his IV. “Samantha, stop. It’s not what you think.”
“Not what I think?” I stared at him, my chest heaving. Tears were burning in my eyes. “There’s a WOMAN under your bed, Ethan! What else am I supposed to think? That she dropped her contact lens under there?”
“Miss Samantha, I can explain —” the woman started.
An angry woman yelling | Source: Midjourney
“How dare you?” I yelled, backing away from both of them. “How long has this been going on? Is this why you’ve been acting so strange, Ethan?”
The heart monitor’s beeping grew more insistent. Ethan shifted in the bed, wincing as he carefully swung his legs over the side. His movements were slow and deliberate, his hands gripping the edge of the mattress for support. The IV pole rattled softly as he stood, unsteady on his feet, his hospital gown fluttering slightly with the effort.
I could see him struggling to keep his balance, his knuckles white as he braced himself. “Please, just listen to me,” he said, his voice trembling. “I can explain.”
An agitated man | Source: Midjourney
“Explain WHAT, Ethan? That you’re cheating on me in a hospital room? While I’m at home, taking care of our children, running myself ragged trying to keep everything together?”
“No! God, no. It’s not like that.” He glanced at the woman, who looked like she wanted to sink into the floor. “Tell her,” he said.
The woman hesitated, then mumbled, “I’m a wedding planner.”
I blinked. “A… what?”
She straightened, still avoiding my gaze. “Ethan hired me to help organize a surprise wedding. For you.”
I stared at her like she’d just spoken another language. “A… wedding? For me? What are you talking about?”
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Ethan sighed, running a hand through his hair. “It’s true. I’ve been working with her to plan a wedding. For us. A real one.”
“But… but why all the secrecy? Why hide her under the bed like some… some teenager sneaking around?”
“Because you weren’t supposed to be here!” Ethan’s voice broke. “We’ve been planning this for months.”
A sad man | Source: Midjourney
The woman nodded awkwardly. “We were finalizing the details — your favorite colors, flowers, everything. He wanted it all to be perfect. We overheard you talking to someone on the phone outside the ward, and we didn’t want to give away the surprise… so he told me to hide under the bed. I’m so sorry for the misunderstanding.”
“I found our old wedding photo the other day,” Ethan continued, his eyes glistening. “Remember? City hall, you in that simple white dress, me in my dad’s old suit? You deserved so much more than that rushed ceremony.”
I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. The anger I’d felt moments ago melted into something softer, something that made my chest ache.
A woman overwhelmed with emotions | Source: Midjourney
“You… you were planning a wedding?” I whispered. “All this time?”
Ethan nodded, reaching for my hand. “I know it sounds crazy, but… I just wanted to surprise you. To make you happy. To give you the wedding day you always dreamed about before…”
“Before what?” I pressed, squeezing his hand.
“Before anything else can go wrong,” he whispered. “I love you, Sam. More than anything. I want to marry you again, properly this time, surrounded by our kids, family, and friends.”
For a moment, I just stood there, staring at him. Then, slowly, I started to laugh, tears streaming down my face.
A woman smiling | Source: Midjourney
“You are insane!” I said, shaking my head. “Do you have any idea how close I was to calling 911? I thought… God, I thought the worst.”
Ethan gave me a sheepish smile. “Yeah… sorry about that. Not my brightest moment, having Jessica hide under the bed.”
The wedding planner — Jessica — muttered another apology before slipping out of the room, leaving the two of us alone.
As the door clicked shut, Ethan reached for my hand. “So… what do you think? Still mad at me?”
A woman walking away | Source: Pexels
I squeezed his hand, my heart full. “Mad? No. But you owe me a real explanation… and maybe a drink when we get out of here!” I laughed, then added softly, “And Ethan? I don’t care if we have to have our first dance in wheelchairs when we’re 90. As long as it’s with you.”
He pulled me close, and I could feel his tears dampening my shoulder. “I love you,” he whispered. “Even after ten years, I fall more in love with you every day.”
“I love you too,” I murmured back. “But next time you plan a surprise? Maybe don’t hide the planner under the bed!”
His laughter, warm and genuine this time, filled the hospital room, and everything felt right again.
A couple embracing each other | Source: Unsplash
If You Notice This While Brushing Your Teeth, It Could Be a Sign of Dementia
For the person suffering from dementia as well as the ones closest to them, it may be an extremely frightening disease. On the other hand, early detection of dementia symptoms might make everyone feel better prepared. More equipped to handle the ambiguity, emotional upheaval, or perplexity. Fortunately, Dr. Richard Restak’s book, How to Prevent Dementia, was released on October 17, 2023. Some early indicators of the condition are covered in the book. The physician reveals in the book that there are four main dementia early warning indicators. He refers to the symptoms of dementia as the “Four A’s” and describes how they might manifest in routine activities like brushing your teeth. He stated that the exterior manifestations and internal feelings of an Alzheimer’s patient are driven by four deficits.
1. Amnesia may be a sign of dementia
According to Dr. Restak, forgetfulness is a common aging process. Thus, it only warrants concern when it occurs frequently and involving items that ought to be commonplace. For instance, if you routinely lose track of details like your address, name, or family members’ names. He adds that while this is a typical aging symptom, it might not always indicate dementia.
2. Or aphasia
The term “aphasia” describes a problem of comprehension and communication. That is, a person’s capacity for speaking, writing, and reading could deteriorate. On a daily basis, this could appear to be someone who mispronounces a word or has forgotten what it means. Dr. Restak points out that this could not be a reliable indicator of dementia either. Why then include them? The solution is easy to understand. Diseases and people have a significant characteristic. Like diseases, we vary from case to case. No condition fits neatly into a box or checklist, and some symptoms may apply to some people but not to others. Rather, diseases and humans have certain characteristics that may fall into one category but not another. Consequently, even though these dementia symptoms might not apply to everyone, they can significantly help some people learn how to deal with and manage the condition.
3. Appropriate Indices of Dementia: Agnosia and Apraxia
One illness that affects the senses is anemia. It makes it impossible to identify well-known individuals or locations. This can be experienced by touch, taste, smell, sound, or sight. Among the instances are failing to identify a family member, house, or preferred destination for a Saturday excursion. Aphasia, on the other hand, is the final of the four symptoms of dementia and manifests itself when performing routine actions like brushing your teeth. Muscle function and strength are affected by the illness. Although apraxia can cause a person to forget to brush or even have difficulty holding the toothbrush, Dr. Restak cautions that the condition goes far deeper than that. When someone has apraxia, they frequently are unable to “tie all the actions together” or perform them in the right sequence. “An individual suffering from apraxia might be able to identify and even name a toothbrush and toothpaste, but they might not be able to perform the simple act of pressing toothpaste onto the toothbrush.” He composed. “All the muscle parts are there, but they are not able to work together.” Individuals in advanced phases could also find it difficult to take a shower or get dressed.Restak wrote in How to Prevent Dementia that “many, if not all, expressions of Alzheimer’s can be explained by reference to the four A’s.”
4. Alzheimer’s versus dementia
The title of the book is Dementia Prevention. Still, Dr. Restak makes several allusions to Alzheimer’s. This is due to the long-held belief that the two illnesses are very similar. While this is accurate, there are a few significant distinctions between the two, and it turns out that one frequently leads to the other. In general medicine, the term “dementia” refers to brain changes brought on by aging, illness, or trauma. the term used to describe a collection of symptoms that impair a person’s capacity to operate and carry out daily tasks. Conversely, Alzheimer’s is more common in the old and senior population and frequently results in dementia.
5. Having a Conversation with an Expert
It’s advised to get in touch with a medical expert right away if you believe someone you know is showing dementia symptoms. They will have a better understanding of your symptoms and be able to conduct tests that will help determine the exact cause. But the discussion may also be frightening, awkward, and emotionally charged. There are a few things one can do to facilitate a more seamless communication. First, make sure everything is quiet, peaceful, and devoid of distractions like the TV. After that, get ready for an emotional roller coaster. Just provide the facts, but do so in a kind and perceptive manner. Summarize the important points in brief phrases and words. Permit the other individual to finish speaking. It might also be advisable in some circumstances to enlist expert assistance. For example, you can probably get emotional support, resources, and sometimes even medical guidance about what’s ahead from a religious leader, a primary care physician, or a certified therapist. In any case, the first step to learning to live with and conquer the obstacles brought on by dementia is being aware of its symptoms.
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