
I never liked my own family—call it dysfunctional if you may. But I still couldn’t fathom how my sister would betray me like this, twice, even though I helped her and our father out.
Sometimes I wonder what would happen if I was born into a better family. You know, with better parents who actually know how to be parents? But you don’t always get what you want in life, isn’t it?
I can’t really blame my mother actually—she ran away from the family when I was just ten, presumably since my father was abusive and manipulative. I still wish she took me and my sister away with her at that time, but then again, it is what it is. Sometimes there’s no use in looking back at things and constantly thinking about “what could’ve been.”
That’s what my therapist kept telling me. Don’t look back on the things you can’t change and think about what could’ve been. Look forward, time is linear, there’s no going back.
But she also said writing it out might help—so here it is, I guess.

I grew up in a dysfunctional family | Source: Shutterstock
As I said, my father was an abusive and manipulative monster—self-centered, arrogant … he only cared about himself and the things that actually concerned him. Sometimes I wonder how come my mother actually married him. That’s something I’d never find out, I guess.
As for my younger sister Cheryl, you can probably understand what kind of person she’d grow up to be under such circumstances. We were close when we were kids—at least before everything happened —but after my mother ran away, it had gotten worse since then.
My father never liked me since I was a kid, but he hated me even more after my mother ran away. Why? I have no idea. He probably thought I was the reason why she ran away—he never thought it was his fault.
Well, he blamed the stripper when he was drunk sometimes, but it takes two to tango, isn’t it? Or that it took two to have a lapdance, in this context.
Anyway. My sister Cheryl.

Cheryl and I used to be close when we were kids | Source: Pexels
Ever since mother left, Cheryl became dad’s favorite, presumably since she was still too young to understand what happened. Since I was too old to be converted into daddy’s little girl at that time, he focused on Cheryl instead.
That’s what I meant when I said things began to go downhill from there—he and Cheryl began to gang up on me, alienating me in the house. It wasn’t pleasant, and to be honest, I don’t really want to go into details about what happened. Let’s just say I wish I had a more functional family.
Cheryl grew up to be a spoiled brat. That’s the thing about my father. He might be an absolute jerk of a person, but he wasn’t stupid. In fact, he made himself a fortune by setting up a trading company. It made sense though since he had every single trait of being a psychopathic CEO.
Chery, being daddy’s little girl of the family, had everything she needed and wanted—and even things she didn’t know she wanted. I can still remember the Gucci bag my father gave her when she was just 12. Can you believe that? A 12-year-old girl holding a Gucci bag?
Needless to say, Cheryl grew up to be a dysfunctional human being.

I remember how I used to smell like fast food every night after work | Source: Pexels
As for myself, I had to work hard for everything that I had. Since I wasn’t getting any allowances from my father, I began taking up part-time jobs here and there just to get by. I worked in McDonald’s, Wendy’s, and even handed out leaflets outside Sears at some point. I can still remember how I used to smell like French fries after my shifts. You just cannot get rid of that stench.
In a way, I am thankful for the experience, since all of these things taught me things I needed to know in life. It made me who I am—it taught me how to be resilient and got me through some dark times.
I moved out as soon as I could. I remember I was 18 at the time—it was a long and hot summer, and I packed up my things and went off to California in my old Honda Civic without even saying goodbye. I probably had $400 in my account at the time, but it was liberating. I can still remember the sweet summer breeze of youth and freedom along the Pacific Coast.

I found myself an IT job in California | Source: Pexels
Fast forward 10 years from there, I got my college degree and began working for an IT company. I wouldn’t say I had a great career, but I managed to have a decent life and save some money of my own. To be honest, I wouldn’t stay in IT if not for the money. But hey, we all gotta make a living somehow.
It was then when I received an email from Cheryl. I hadn’t spoken to her nor my dad since the day I moved out, not that they cared anyway. They could’ve reached out to me somehow, but they did not. Ten years, not a single message from them.
But surprise surprise, Cheryl actually asked me for help in the email. How things have changed, I thought to myself.
It started with a bunch of formal addresses like “Dear Emma,” “I hope this email finds you well,” and my favorite—“Sincerely yours.”

I received an email from Cheryl while at work one day | Source: Pexels
She was asking me for money since her kid got sick and needed surgery, but her ex-boyfriend ran away with some chicks and left her with nothing. She said she hadn’t been talking to dad for a few years already due to some argument … bla bla bla. That was why she needed my help.
I was hesitant at first, but then I opened the attachment in the email—it was a picture of my nephew. He was adorable.
After looking at that picture, I debated on what I would do—or rather, the right thing for me to do. You see, I might not like my family, but the kid was innocent. He shouldn’t be pulled into the whole family feud that we had.
After a night of turning over and over again in my bed, I decided to wire her the money.

Cheryl didn’t respond to my emails after I wired her the money | Source: Pexels
The next month I sent her an email, asking her if everything was alright with the kid—alas, no response.
So I did a bit of research and found out where she lived. Well, as it turned out, she didn’t move far—basically six or seven blocks from where we used to live. I decided to drop by and give her a visit.
It had been more than ten years since I left—but that’s the thing about small American towns … scenery might change, but people don’t. I can still recognize the same shops and people I used to know. Older, but not necessarily wiser.
Then, as if God intervened through some twisted manner, before getting to Cheryl, I bumped into an old classmate of mine who happened to know my family cause you know, small town.

I bumped into John at a gas station—it was truly a strange coincidence | Source: Pexels
John was a classmate of mine back then. His mother and my father were neighbors growing up, so he was kind of a family friend. He was beyond surprised when he saw me at the gas station.
“Hey. Is that you, Emma?” he said as he approached me from his car.
“ …John? God, could barely recognize you there, man,” I said.
“What brought you back here? Haven’t seen you in years,” he continued. “Came here to see your old man?”
I assumed he didn’t know what happened to my family all these years.
“Nah, just wanna check on Cheryl and my nephew,” I said, trying to shrug it off and make it sound as natural as I could.
“Your nephew? I didn’t know Cheryl had a kid,” responded John, with a pair of confused eyes. “That’s strange, I would’ve known since I live across the road from her,” he added.
Now things were getting weird.

John happened to live across the road from Cheryl | Source: Pexels
Out of curiosity, I asked John about my father after a brief explanation that we haven’t been talking for quite a few years.
“Yea, he goes over to Cheryl’s every weekend. His business partner screwed him over, I heard, so he lost quite a bit of money there. He seemed sad for a while but he seems alright now,” he said. “I think Cheryl managed to bail him out or something.”
“His partner screwed him over? When was that?”
“Maybe a month or two ago? I remember seeing him walking around Cheryl’s driveway, calling and cursing at his phone—must’ve been around that time.”
I decided to pay Cheryl a visit. I had to know what happened.

I knocked on Cheryl’s door, not entirely sure what I was expecting | Source: Pexels
So, I pulled up in front of Cheryl’s house, rang the doorbell, and she opened the door for me.
From the door I could see my father sitting in the living room, having a glass of wine in his hand—and no, I did not see any kid in the house.
Cheryl was surprised to see me there, as you can guess by now. “Emma? What’re you doing here?” she asked.
“Just trying to check up on my nephew,” I responded.
For a fleeting moment, I could see it in her eyes that she was trying to avoid the topic.
“Oh, a friend of mine is babysitting Anthony now,” she responded. “Do you want to come in? We haven’t seen you in years,” she added.
I was still hesitant at the time—just one step, and I could step inside the house and perhaps deal with all that trauma sown within me years ago. It was so close, that feeling of being able to make things right at last.
But I wasn’t ready. I told them I was a bit under the weather and got back into my car and drove to a nearby motel.

Unable to face Cheryl and my father, I drove to a motel nearby for the night | Source: Pexels
The next day I bumped into John again at a local diner. God certainly works in mysterious ways.
But it was a bit different this time—when he saw me at the diner he simply turned around without saying a single word.
That was strange, I thought to myself. Considering we were on good terms the whole time, there was something odd about it. I decided to walk towards him and asked him what’s up.
“Hey man, sup? Is everything alright?” I asked him when he sat down at his table.
He tried to avoid having eye contact with me, but I just stood there, utterly bewildered by his reaction.
“Hey, I know it’s none of my business, but I think you might need some help,” he said.
Now this just got way more confusing.
“What? Why? I don’t think I understand,” I said.
“Look, I talked to Cheryl last night, about her having a kid—she told me that … well, she told me why you left,” he said meekly.
“What? What did she say?”
“She said you were … imagining things, and they had to send you away to the hospital.”
“W—what? How?”

I bumped into John again in the diner, but I could tell that something was wrong | Source: Pexels
“She doesn’t have a kid and I don’t understand why you said she has. So last night I went over to her place and asked her about it, and she told me what happened,” he said, but then he paused for a moment. “She said you just showed up out of nowhere and started asking about her kid … Look, I don’t want any trouble here.”
That … wretched woman. I don’t know if I can still call her my sister anymore. Did she just throw me under the bus after all I did for her and presumably our father? Am I hallucinating? No, I was pretty sure I was not.
“Wait a second,” I said to John as he was about to leave. I then went through my inbox and showed the email to John. He looked at it and went quiet for a while. But at last, he responded.
“Look, it’s really none of my business, just leave me out of this,” he said, and he simply left the diner without touching his pancakes.

Here I am, back in San Francisco, wondering if I did the right thing | Source: Pexels
So here I am, back in San Francisco at my own apartment. I just drove all the way back here after that interaction with John—Lord knows what other folks in town were talking about right now. Can you imagine that? My very own sister, fabricating a lie so that I could save our father who never cared about me, and then throwing me under the bus and telling the folks that I was crazy? Seriously?
I am not sure how I should feel about it—I admit that writing it down did make me feel better. But still … I couldn’t help but wonder if it would have made a difference if I actually walked into the house and talked to them. Maybe I had a chance to change something? Maybe things wouldn’t end up the way they are now?
I don’t know. I really don’t know.
What can we learn from this story?
Sometimes we just have to let things go. It is what it is, sometimes there’s just nothing we can do about it. Let go and start living.
Look forward. We cannot change the past, whatever that is, but we can try and move on, one way or another.
Share this story with your friends. It might brighten their day and inspire them.
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Real reason Kate Middleton turned down invite to Lilibet’s 1st birthday party – she was mocked by Meghan’s pal

It’s reasonable to suppose Princess Lilibet is still ignorant of her parents’ past. After Prince Harry and Meghan Markle relocated to Montecito, California, the small child was born in the US, and her upbringing differed greatly from her father’s. Even though Lilibet’s first birthday was truly celebrated in the UK, rumors and conjecture still persisted.
Lilibet’s first birthday celebration was missed by her cousins Prince George, Princess Charlotte, and Prince Louis as well as her royal aunt and uncle, Prince William and Kate Middleton. Although it is said that the late Queen Elizabeth was present, she declined to have her photo taken with her great-granddaughter.
The absence of William and Kate at Lilibet’s birthday celebration sparked reactions soon after. While it is true that the Waleses and Sussexes’ relationship was at an all-time low, one of Meghan’s pals publicly mocked Kate and refused to accept it as the cause.
Harry and Meghan made the wonderful announcement that their daughter Lilibet had been born on June 4, 2021. Fans of the royal family will be aware that the girl is their second child; their son, Archie, was born in 2019.
Lilibet, Princess
“It is with great joy that Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, The Duke and Duchess of Sussex, welcome their daughter, Lilibet “Lili” Diana Mountbatten-Windsor, to the world,” a pair representative stated at the time.
Prince William and Kate Middleton were among the other members of the royal family to congratulate Harry and Meghan on the birth of their second child. However, the relationship between the Sussexes and Waleses is now colder than it has ever been.
After her parents had already left the Royal Family, Lilibet was born in the United States. Because Lilibet would benefit from a more subdued and intimate presentation to the public, she could avoid the paparazzi press that had followed Harry and Meghan across the globe.
It took some time for Lilibet’s family in the UK to get to meet her, as the Sussexes reside in the US.
Lilibet finally saw her great-grandmother at Queen Elizabeth’s Platinum Jubilee Celebration in 2022. Lilibet turned one on June 4, 2022, and her parents chose to celebrate at Frogmore Cottage, their then-UK residence.

MisanHarriman on Instagram.
On their daughter’s special day, Meghan and Harry planned a picnic in their backyard. One of the few images of Lilibet that the public has seen is the lovely photo that their friend Misan Harriman shared of the young child celebrating her birthday.
At Lilibet’s first birthday celebration, Queen Elizabeth declined to have her photo taken.
Lilibet first encountered her then-grandfather, Prince Charles, and her great-grandmother, Queen Elizabeth, at the picnic at Frogmore Cottage.
Although they must have both been happy to see Lilibet, no pictures of their initial meeting were released to the public. In fact, Queen Elizabeth forbade Harry and Meghan from having a photographer present, as The Sun revealed.
An insider told The Sun, “Harry and Meghan wanted their photographer to capture the moment Lilibet met the Queen.” But nobody gave them a chance. It was a private gathering with family.
The tiny child had a bloodshot eye, so the queen refused to have a picture taken with her, according to royal researcher Camilla Tominey. According to Tominey, the queen requested not to be in any pictures that would be released to the public.
Harry was said to have mentioned wanting a picture with her “at some point in the future,” according to a report that Tominey reported at the time in The Telegraph.
The queen at the time, according to royal expert Phil Dampier, had a “lack of trust” in Harry and Meghan because they had participated in the controversial Oprah Winfrey interview just a few months prior. She therefore wished to avoid having her great-granddaughter pictured.

“The Queen remained as sharp as a pin, despite her health struggles. She became aware that any photo she had taken with Lilibet might have been used for malicious purposes, Dampier told The Sun.
“I don’t believe she was overly happy that the name Lilibet was selected in the first place and was given to her as a fait accompli. Putting her foot down, she ruled against taking pictures.
A friend of Meghan Markle made fun of Kate Middleton for turning down Lilibet’s birthday invitation.
According to reports, the children of Zara Tindall and Peter Phillips were the only ones that attended the celebration. Princess Kate, Prince William, and their kids decided not to go. Things haven’t really gotten much better since then; tensions were still very high.
The official explanation for Prince William and Kate Middleton’s absence from Lilibet’s birthday celebration was that they had other obligations that day. But during the Sussexes’ visit to the UK, Christopher Andersen, a royal specialist, told Us Weekly that the future king and queen made “no effort” to introduce George, Charlotte, and Louis to Lilibet.
One of Meghan Markle’s pals was displeased when Prince William and Kate Middleton turned down the invitation to Lilibet’s first birthday picnic at Frogmore Cottage.
The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills actress Garcelle Beauvais discussed the absence of the now-Prince and Princess of Wales from the birthday celebration in an interview with E!.
She called Kate’s choice to skip the event “shady.”
“What’s happening is that I’m shampooing my hair and we’re out of town—what a coincidence. There is some shade there, Beauvais said to E!.
“They are unable to postpone the flight for a few hours in order to meet Lilibet and Archie?”
Family conflicts are never pleasant, and they frequently become much more complicated when children are involved.

Harry hasn’t seen his nephews and niece in a while due to the ongoing “battle of the brothers” and Harry and Meghan’s relocation to the US. Tom Quinn, a royal biographer, claims that Harry is “devastated” at the division.
Princess Lilibet turns three, and the celebration is kept low-key.
Quinn informed the Mirror, “We know that Harry’s deepest upset concerns not only his lack of relationship with George, Charlotte, and Louis, but also his own children’s lack of a relationship with their cousins.”
“Harry and Meghan would really like to find a solution to the issue. They would really like it if the cousins could get together frequently and have a good connection as they grow up, but they are unable to see how that can happen while they are still at odds. Harry expressed his wish that the cousins could maintain their friendship as adults.
Tuesday, June 4, 2024 was Lilibet’s third birthday. As previously indicated, Lilibet’s first birthday was observed in the UK. In California, her second birthday was supposedly celebrated with a “celeb-packed all-American bash,” while this year’s event is supposedly more subdued.

People Magazine stated that a “pre-birthday bash” kicked off the birthday celebrations for Lilibet. Harry, Meghan, and their kids threw a celebration in their Montecito house over the weekend to honor their daughter. “Close friends, family, and some of Lili’s friends” were among the attendees.
When Meghan Markle was in Nigeria, she shared new information on Lilibet.
Harry and Meghan have made the decision to keep their kids out of the spotlight, and they seldom ever post updates or images of Archie and Lilibet. When the kids debuted in their Netflix series in December 2022, among other things, royal fans learned that Archie spoke with an American accent.
In order to promote the Invictus Games, Harry and Meghan traveled to Nigeria for three days a few weeks ago. Meghan said that Lilibet’s “favorite class” was “singing and dancing” while visiting a school in Abuja. This was probably because to “all the jumping around.”
In addition, the Duchess conversed with a few students and gave a brief speech about her daughter.
It’s interesting to note that Lili, our daughter, is far smaller than any of you. It’s almost her third birthday. And a few weeks prior, all she would see when she gazed at me was my eye’s reflection. “Mama, I see myself in you,” she exclaimed. Meghan remarked, “Oh, now she was talking really, literally,” according to the Mirror.
But my interpretation of those words was quite different. And I realized that while I do see myself and you, and you see me and you, I also see myself in each and every one of you as I glance around this room.
Though Archie and Lilibet have remained out of the spotlight for the time being, the Sussexes may decide to change that.

People Magazine stated that a “pre-birthday bash” kicked off the birthday celebrations for Lilibet. Harry, Meghan, and their kids threw a celebration in their Montecito house over the weekend to honor their daughter. “Close friends, family, and some of Lili’s friends” were among the attendees.
When Meghan Markle was in Nigeria, she shared new information on Lilibet.
Harry and Meghan have made the decision to keep their kids out of the spotlight, and they seldom ever post updates or images of Archie and Lilibet. When the kids debuted in their Netflix series in December 2022, among other things, royal fans learned that Archie spoke with an American accent.
In order to promote the Invictus Games, Harry and Meghan traveled to Nigeria for three days a few weeks ago. Meghan said that Lilibet’s “favorite class” was “singing and dancing” while visiting a school in Abuja. This was probably because to “all the jumping around.”
In addition, the Duchess conversed with a few students and gave a brief speech about her daughter.
It’s interesting to note that Lili, our daughter, is far smaller than any of you. It’s almost her third birthday. And a few weeks prior, all she would see when she gazed at me was my eye’s reflection. “Mama, I see myself in you,” she exclaimed. Meghan remarked, “Oh, now she was talking really, literally,” according to the Mirror.
But my interpretation of those words was quite different. And I realized that while I do see myself and you, and you see me and you, I also see myself in each and every one of you as I glance around this room.
Though Archie and Lilibet have remained out of the spotlight for the time being, the Sussexes may decide to change that.
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