My parents forced me to pay for my own dinner while they covered the bill for everyone else – Their justification was absurd

Jennifer’s parents caught her off guard during a family dinner by unexpectedly asking her to cover the cost of her meal, while they paid for everyone else. Jennifer’s resentment brews as the sting of unfairness deepens, setting the stage for a confrontation the family won’t forget.

The night I got the text from Mom about a “special family dinner,” I nearly choked on my microwaved ramen. It had been ages since we’d all gotten together, and even longer since it felt like my parents actually wanted me there.

love my family, but being the middle child is like being the bologna in a sandwich where everyone’s fighting over the bread.

I stared at my phone, thumb hovering over the keyboard. Part of me wanted to make up some lame excuse, but then I thought about Tina and Cameron, my perfect older sister and my can-do-no-wrong little brother.

They’d be there, basking in Mom and Dad’s approval, like always. And I’d remain the perpetual afterthought if I didn’t show up.

“Count me in,” I typed, hitting send before I could change my mind.

Mom replied instantly. “Great! Le Petit Château, 7 p.m. next Friday. Don’t be late!”

Le Petit Château. Fancy. I whistled low, already mentally tallying up my savings. This wasn’t going to be cheap, but hey, maybe it was a sign things were changing. Maybe they actually wanted to spend time with me, Jennifer the Forgettable.

That Friday, I arrived at the restaurant ten minutes early, feeling nervous. Just as I was about to go in, Mom and Dad showed up. Mom was all smiles, while Dad wore his usual concerned expression.

Inside, we found a cozy table, and soon after, Tina and Robert joined us. Tina looked stunning, as always, making me feel like a potato by comparison. Finally, Cameron arrived, late as usual, and complaining about traffic.

Now we were all settled, Mom wasted no time in making me feel insignificant.

“So, Jennifer,” Mom said, peering at me over her menu, “how’s work going? Still at that little marketing firm?”

I nodded, trying not to bristle at the ‘little’ part. “Yeah, it’s good. We just landed a pretty big client, actually. I’m heading up the campaign.”

“Oh, that’s nice,” Mom said, her attention already drifting back to Tina, who was regaling Dad with tales of her son’s latest soccer game.

That stung, but the atmosphere improved while we ate. The food was great, and soon we were talking and laughing like we used to when I was a kid.

I was enjoying the meal and the rare feeling of being part of the family, but then the check came.

Dad reached for it and started going over the bill, like he always did. But then he frowned, looking directly at me.

“Jennifer,” he said, his voice oddly formal, “you’ll be covering your portion tonight.”

I blinked, sure I’d heard him wrong. “What?”

“You’re an adult now,” he continued, as if explaining something to a child. “It’s time you start paying your own way.”

“But…” I started, my voice small, “I thought this was a family dinner. You’re paying for everyone else.”

Dad’s frown deepened. “Your sister and brother have families to support. You’re single, so it’s only fair.”

Fair. The word echoed in my head, mocking me. I swallowed hard, fighting back the tears that threatened to spill over. Without a word, I pulled out my credit card and handed it to the waiter, praying it wouldn’t get declined.

The rest of the night was a blur. As I drove home, the hurt began to curdle into something else. Something harder, angrier.

The next morning, I woke up with a headache and a heart full of resentment. I spent the day alternating between moping on the couch and pacing my apartment like a caged animal. By evening, something inside me had shifted.

I wasn’t just going to let this go. Not this time.

An idea started to form. Crazy at first, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense. I was going to give them a taste of their own medicine.

I invited Mom and Dad over for dinner and then spent days perfecting the menu. I cleaned my apartment until it sparkled, bought fancy candles, and even splurged on a tablecloth that didn’t come from the dollar store.

The night of the dinner arrived, and I was eerily calm. I had a plan, and I was sticking to it.

The doorbell rang at 7 p.m. sharp. I took a deep breath and opened the door with a smile plastered on my face.

“Mom, Dad! Come in!”

Dad handed me a bottle of wine. “Place looks nice, Jennifer.”

“Thanks,” I said, ushering them to the living room. “Dinner’s almost ready. Can I get you something to drink?”

As I poured their wine, Mom settled onto the couch, her eyes roaming over my bookshelf. “So, how have you been, dear? We haven’t heard much from you since… well, since our last dinner.”

I forced a light laugh. “Oh, you know how it is. Work’s been crazy busy.”

We made small talk for a while, the conversation stilted and full of long pauses. Finally, the oven timer beeped, saving us all.

“Dinner’s ready!” I announced, perhaps a bit too cheerfully.

I’d outdone myself with the meal: herb-crusted salmon, roasted vegetables, and a quinoa salad that had taken forever to get right. Mom and Dad made appropriate noises of appreciation as they ate.

“This is delicious, Jennifer,” Mom said, sounding genuinely impressed. “I didn’t know you could cook like this.”

I shrugged, tamping down the flare of resentment at her surprise. “I’ve picked up a few things over the years.”

The dinner progressed smoothly, almost pleasantly. I almost forgot why I’d invited them over in the first place. Then Dad started with one of his lectures about financial responsibility, and I knew it was time.

As I cleared the plates and brought out a fancy tiramisu for dessert, I steeled myself. This was it.

“So,” I said casually, setting down the dessert plates, “I hope you enjoyed the meal.”

They both nodded, smiling. “It was wonderful, dear,” Mom said.

I smiled back, but it didn’t reach my eyes. “Great. That’ll be $47.50 each, please.”

The silence that followed was deafening. Mom’s fork clattered against her plate, and Dad’s face went through a rapid series of emotions – confusion, disbelief, and then anger.

“I’m sorry, what?” he sputtered.

I kept my voice calm, channeling Dad’s tone from that night at the restaurant. “Well, you’re both adults. It’s time you started paying your own way.”

Mom’s mouth opened and closed like a fish out of water. “But… but this is your home. You invited us.”

“Yes,” I said, my voice hardening slightly. “Just like you invited me to Le Petit Château. And then made me pay for my meal while covering everyone else’s.”

Understanding dawned on their faces, quickly followed by shame.

“Jennifer,” Dad started, his voice gruff. “That’s not… we didn’t mean…”

“Didn’t mean what?” I interrupted, years of pent-up frustration finally boiling over.

“Didn’t mean to make me feel like I’m worth less than Tina or Cameron? Didn’t mean to constantly overlook me? Or did you just not mean to get called out on it?”

Mom reached out, trying to take my hand, but I pulled away. “Sweetie, we had no idea you felt this way.”

I laughed, but there was no humor in it. “Of course you didn’t. Do you have any idea what it’s like to always be the afterthought in your own family?”

Dad shifted uncomfortably in his seat.

“We love you just as much as your siblings, Jennifer.”

“Do you?” I challenged. “Because it doesn’t feel like it. I’m just as successful as Tina, just as hardworking as Cameron. But somehow, I’m always the one who’s expected to ‘act like an adult’ while they get a free pass.”

The room fell silent again, but this time it was heavy with unspoken words and long-ignored feelings.

Finally, Dad cleared his throat. “We… we owe you an apology, Jennifer. A big one.”

Mom nodded, tears in her eyes. “We never meant to make you feel less valued. You’re our daughter, and we love you so much. We’ve just… we’ve done a terrible job of showing it.”

I felt my own eyes welling up, but I blinked back the tears. “I don’t want your apologies. I want you to do better. To be better. To see me.”

Dad stood up, his movements stiff. For a moment, I thought he was going to leave.

Instead, he walked around the table and hugged me. It was awkward and a little too tight, but it was more genuine than any interaction we’d had in years.

“We see you, Jennifer,” he said, his voice rough with emotion. “And we’re so, so proud of you. We’ve been blind and stupid, and we’ve taken you for granted. But that ends now.”

Mom joined the hug, and for a minute, we just stood there, a tangle of arms and unshed tears and long-overdue honesty.

When we finally broke apart, Mom wiped her eyes and gave a watery chuckle. “So, about that bill…”

I couldn’t help but laugh. “Tell you what. This one’s on the house. But next time we go out? We’re splitting the check evenly. All of us.”

Dad nodded solemnly. “Deal.”

As they left that night, things weren’t magically fixed. Years of feeling overlooked and undervalued don’t disappear in one conversation. But it was a start. A crack in the wall I’d built around myself, letting in a glimmer of hope.

Mary Lou Retton Has Pneumonia and ‘Is Fighting for Her Life,’ Daughter Says

The gymnastics champion sprang to stardom at the 1984 Olympics, where she became the first American woman to win a gold medal in the all-around competition. Her family is raising money online, saying she lacks health insurance.

Mary Lou Retton raises her hands and smiles while competing in 1984.

May Lou Retton at the 1984 Olympics, where she won five medals.

Mary Lou Retton, who became one of the most popular athletes in the country after winning the all-around women’s gymnastics competition at the 1984 Summer Olympics in Los Angeles, has pneumonia and is “fighting for her life” in the intensive care unit, her daughter said in a statement this week.

Retton’s daughter McKenna Lane Kelley said on Instagram that her mother “is not able to breathe on her own” and that she had been in the intensive care unit for more than a week.

Kelley asked for donations to help pay for her mother’s hospital bills, saying her mother lacked health insurance. By Wednesday, she had raised more than $260,000 online from more than 4,600 donors.

She did not share more specific information about her mother’s condition, though she said that her pneumonia was “a very rare form.” It was not clear what hospital Retton was in.

Kelley, who was a gymnast at Louisiana State University, did not immediately respond to a message seeking comment on Tuesday.

On Wednesday, another daughter, Shayla Kelley Schrepfer, released a video on Instagram thanking people for “all the love and support that you’ve given to my mom.”

“She’s still fighting,” Schrepfer said. “It’s going to be a day-by-day process, and we hope that you guys will respect her boundaries, as we want to keep the details between her and our family right now. She has been treated with the best of the best professionals here, and it has been such a blessing to have their hands on her.”

At the 1984 Olympics, Retton became the first American woman to win the all-around gold medal or any individual Olympic medal in gymnastics. Going into the final rotation of the competition, she was five-hundredths of a point behind Romania’s Ecaterina Szabo, and the only way she could beat Szabo was to score a perfect 10 on vault.

Retton scored a perfect 10.

She won five medals in Los Angeles, including two silvers, for team and vault, and two bronzes, for uneven bars and floor exercise.

A closeup of Mary Lou Retton, smiling.
Mary Lou Retton in 2009.Credit…Jonathan Daniel/Getty Images

Though there was an asterisk by Retton’s victory in the history books — the Soviet Union, which was the most dominant force in women’s gymnastics at the time, boycotted the 1984 Games — it nonetheless made her a sports hero in the United States. In addition to earning her the traditional trappings of Olympic gold, like appearing on a Wheaties box, she was widely viewed as an inspiration to a new generation of American girls entering gymnastics.

Even as the American gymnastics program grew and the country won more medals, including the team gold in 1996, Retton’s prominence remained: For 20 years, Retton, now 55, was the only American woman to win the all-around title, until Carly Patterson became the second in 2004.

Retton was born in Fairmont, W.Va., and got her start early, like many top gymnasts. By the time Retton was 7 years old, she was training in gymnastics full-time.

Retton’s talent had been apparent from the start, but a big break came at an Olympics elimination tournament in Reno, Nev., in 1982, where she impressed Bela Karolyi, who would go on to coach her in the 1984 Olympics.

“I immediately recognized the tremendous physical potential of this little kid,” Karolyi said in a March 1984 interview.

Retton appeared in a number of films and TV shows in the late 1980s and 1990s, including the comedy film “Scrooged.”

After her athletic career, Retton became a motivational speaker to promote the benefits of proper nutrition and regular exercise.

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