It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
I Asked to Be Cut from My Parents’ Will after Overhearing My Brothers’ Conversation
When Elena’s parents decided to leave her the family home, she expected her brothers to share in the joy. Instead, their hidden resentment leads to a revelation that changes everything. Will her decision to reject her inheritance heal old wounds or create new ones?
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Growing up as the youngest and the only daughter in a tight-knit family had its perks and its challenges. But mostly, I felt cherished, surrounded by my parents and two protective older brothers, Kyle and Dean.
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It was the kind of childhood you’d think was straight out of a feel-good movie—complete with raucous holiday gatherings, summer barbecues in our backyard, and the kind of parents who never missed a school play or a soccer game.
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Last weekend was no different in its familial warmth, or so I thought as we gathered around the dining table, the familiar scents of mom’s cooking mingling with the soft murmur of catch-up conversations.
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Our parents, though noticeably grayer and more deliberate in their movements, were as spirited as ever, their eyes twinkling with a kind of excitement you’d associate with kids planning a secret clubhouse meeting.
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As we settled into the comfortable rhythm of passing dishes and sharing updates, Mom and Dad exchanged a glance—a silent nod that seemed to signal it was time for the ‘main event’ of the evening.
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Clearing his throat, Dad announced, “We’ve been thinking a lot about the future, especially about this house, which has been a home to so many memories for us.”
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Mom took over with a voice both soft and resolute, “We’ve decided that we want Elena to have the house in our will.”
The words landed on the table with a weight I hadn’t anticipated, stirring a mixture of surprise and gratitude in me. “Really?” was all I managed, my voice a mix of shock and a burgeoning sense of responsibility.
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That’s when I noticed it—the poker faces on Kyle and Dean. As our parents continued discussing the details, my brothers clapped mechanically, their smiles not quite reaching their eyes.
Something in their expressions hinted at a private joke or a shared concern, hidden just beneath the surface of their orchestrated calm.
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Trying to shake off a growing unease, I nodded and thanked my parents, though the look in my brothers’ eyes—hinting at something hidden—stayed with me.
After everyone had said their goodnights and the house quieted down, the small twinge of unease I felt earlier began to settle into the pit of my stomach.
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I chalked it up to the big announcement and tried to focus on the comforting familiarity of my childhood home. Since Mom wasn’t feeling well and had asked me to stay the night, I settled into my old room, the walls lined with memories of a more carefree time.
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It must have been past midnight when I tiptoed downstairs, the floorboards creaking softly underfoot. I just needed a glass of water to calm an inexplicable restlessness that had me tossing and turning.
But as I neared the kitchen, the low murmur of voices halted me mid-step. It was Kyle and Dean, their words floating out to me, clear in the stillness of the night.
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“Our sweet baby Elena must be enjoying all the attention, right, brother?” Kyle’s voice was laced with a sarcasm I hadn’t expected.
“Of course. She’s such a goody-two-shoes. Always wants to make Mom and Dad happy. Her sweetness is too much to handle,” Dean responded, his tone mocking.
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Kyle laughed, a sound that seemed to slice through the quiet. “Hahaha! Let her have that house! Let her think that she’s won the grand prize. But if only she knew…”
Dean joined in, his laughter mingling with Kyle’s, “I know, right? She has no idea what she agreed to! Now she’ll have to care for our older parents, be their nanny, and stay around them 24/7.”
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“Poor thing! I feel bad for her. Imagine her life as a parent sitter while we’ll be happily chilling and going to parties with no responsibilities,” Kyle added, his tone dripping with faux sympathy.
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Stunned and deeply hurt by the conversation I’d accidentally overheard, I made my way back upstairs, each step heavier than the last. My mind was racing, emotions swirling into a storm of betrayal and disappointment.
By the time I reached my parents’ room, my decision was made. I couldn’t bear the thought of my future being a topic of mockery or an unwelcome burden cleverly offloaded onto me.
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Knocking softly on their door, I entered. The dim light cast shadows across their concerned faces.
“Mom, Dad,” I began, my voice steady despite the turmoil inside, “I need to talk to you about the will. I’ve thought about it, and I want you to cut me out completely. I don’t want the house or any part of the inheritance.” The words tumbled out, a mix of resignation and resolve.
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They looked at each other, then back at me, confusion and worry etched in their expressions. “But why, Elena?” Dad asked, his voice thick with concern.
I shook my head, unable to disclose the real reason, the hurt still too raw. “I just think it’s better this way. Please, let Kyle and Dean have it.”
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Without waiting for their response, I grabbed my things and left, the night air cold against my tear-streaked cheeks as I headed back to my apartment. The drive was a blur, my thoughts loud and chaotic.
The next morning, as the sunlight streamed uninvited into my apartment, my phone rang. It was Mom. “Elena, what happened last night? Why don’t you want the house anymore?” Her voice was gentle, probing for answers I wasn’t ready to give.
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I paused, collecting my thoughts. “I think it’s best if Kyle and Dean have the house. I don’t need anything in return to care for you and Dad. I want to do it because I love you, not because I expect something back,” I replied, my voice more confident than I felt.
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True to my word, over the next few months, I devoted myself to caring for them. Despite their numerous ailments, their old age, and increasing fragility, I was there.
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Whether it was doctor’s appointments, grocery runs, or simply spending time with them, watching old movies, I made sure they felt loved and cared for. My heart may have been bruised, but it was not broken—not when it came to my parents.
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Life has a way of unfolding that you can never predict. Just two months after deciding to devote myself fully to my parents, I faced the hardest goodbye: we lost Dad.
The grief barely had time to settle before, a month later, Mom followed, leaving me in a world without them.
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It was a numbing whirlwind of loss that felt both cruel and unbearable. Yet, during those months, the bond we fortified through care and shared moments became my solace.
As expected, Kyle and Dean inherited the house. I wasn’t there to see it transferred, but I heard about what happened next in a surreal, almost unbelievable sequence of events.
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A few weeks after they moved in, my brothers decided to throw a massive housewarming party. I wasn’t invited, but the news traveled fast and furious, much like the fire that ended the night.
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From what I pieced together, the party was in full swing—loud music echoing through the halls where we once played hide and seek, laughter and clinking glasses filling rooms that still echoed with remnants of our childhood giggles. But then, tragedy struck.
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Amidst the revelry, a fire broke out. It was a huge, engulfing flame, sparked by a short circuit, something so small yet so destructive. The house, our family home filled with memories, was consumed by fire, reducing everything to ashes within hours.
My brothers, thankfully safe, watched helplessly as the physical connection to our parents vanished into smoke.
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Meanwhile, before all this, I took with me not just the heartache and the bittersweet memories but also tangible pieces of my childhood.
The blanket Mom sewed for me when I left for college, the photos of us at various stages of life, the scrapbook Dad and I had spent countless Sundays decorating—these were my treasures. But there was one more surprise waiting for me, something neither my brothers nor I knew about.
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In the quiet aftermath of my parents’ passing, as I was sorting through some of their belongings, I found a small, unassuming box. Inside it was a large, beautifully cut stone that shimmered with a light of its own.
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Curious, I had it appraised, not expecting much. To my utter shock, it was a rare gem, worth a small fortune. It seemed my parents had left me a keepsake, a final gift, ensuring I had a piece of them that carried both sentimental and significant value.
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So, here I am, reflecting on the whirlwind that’s been my life these past few months. I sit, the gem catching the sunlight, casting colorful reflections across the room, each a memory, a moment of love shared with the two most important people in my life.
My brothers might have gotten the house, but fate had other plans for that inheritance. I, on the other hand, ended up with something far more precious.
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So, dear readers, do you think I was right to ask my parents to remove me from their will? If you were in my position, faced with such revelations from siblings, what would you have done? Sometimes, the real value of things isn’t in their appearance but in their true meaning.
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