My mother had a clear favorite her entire life, while I was raised by my grandparents mostly. When she got old and sick, I helped financially but refused to do more than that for a crucial reason.
While most good parents would tell you that they don’t have a favorite, my mother was not ashamed to tell me that my brother, Stanley, was her golden boy. My father walked out of our family because caring for two children became too much.
In the end, my mother blamed me for it. “He wouldn’t have left if I hadn’t gotten pregnant with you,” she told me one day. I was just a child at the time and only wanted my mother’s love.
“But that’s not my fault,” I replied. “I didn’t ask to be born.”
“Don’t talk back to me! I’m the parent, and you’re the kid, so shut up,” she finished. We would have similar conversations through the years whenever she was mad at me. Finally, my mother sent me to live with my paternal grandparents.
They felt so bad that our father had walked away from our lives that they took me in and gave me all the love I never received at home. That’s how I learned that the word family has lots of meanings.
All I heard about my mother and brother over the years was that she helped him with everything. He got into some trouble with the police, and my mother paid all his legal fees. Eventually, she had to sell her house and pay for his apartment.
Stanley was spoiled and couldn’t hold down a job, but my mother coddled him. Meanwhile, my grandparents didn’t have much money, but they gave me everything they could. I had to work to afford my college and my home.
I learned a whole ton of responsibility, and when I graduated, I got a pretty decent job. That’s where I met my husband, Lawrence. We had two daughters whom I cherished equally. When my grandparents got sick, I was there for them until the very end.
They gave me their house, and one of my daughters moved there when she got married. Unfortunately, my husband died shortly after her wedding. She asked me to live with her, but I wanted to stay in our home.
I didn’t hear from my brother or my mother for many years. They didn’t care about me at all, so why should I care about them? But one day, Stanley called. “Hello?” I answered the phone.
“Hey, Brooke. It’s Stanley. How are you?” my brother said through the other line.
“Oh, hey, Stanley. Long time, no speak. I’m fine. How about you?” I replied.
“Yeah, it’s been a while. Listen, I’m calling because Mom broke her hip. I need your help,” Stanley continued.
“Oh, that’s too bad. Is she ok?” I asked.
“She’s fine. It’s just that the hospital bill will be pretty expensive, and I need help paying for it. She’s our mother after all,” he explained.
“Oh, well. Ok. Give me the details, and I’ll send some money,” I told him. My husband and I had accumulated decent savings, so I could afford to send Stanley some money for whatever our mother needed.
“That’s great, Brooke. Thank you. I’ll talk to you later,” Stanley said and hung up. I didn’t feel any obligation to my mother, but I wasn’t heartless. I sent him the money and forgot about it until a week later when my brother called again.
“Hey, Brooke!” Stanley started.
“Hey. How did everything go?” I asked.
“The operation for her hip went well, but the doctor just told me she’s going to need tons of rehab and round-the-clock care. I was wondering when you could come to pick her up?” my brother asked.
“What do you mean pick her up?” I probed, confused.
“I told you. She needs someone to take care of her. I’ve been by her side our whole lives. It’s time you take responsibility, Brooke. I can’t watch her,” Stanley added.
“Excuse me? Responsibility? Mom sent me to live with our grandparents because she hated me, and you were her golden boy. She essentially abandoned me,” I snapped.
“Please. Stop the melodrama. You need to step up because she needs you. She gave you life. You owe her,” Stanley demanded.
“No. I don’t owe her anything. I needed my mother when I was growing up, and she refused. She gave all her love to you, so you will need to figure out something. I gave you money for her hospital bills out of the goodness of my heart, but I won’t be her caretaker,” I told him.
“YOU’RE HORRIBLE, BROOKE! HOW CAN YOU DO THIS? I CAN’T WATCH HER!” Stanley started screaming through the phone.
“Honestly, I don’t care, Stanley. You don’t get to call me horrible. I was a kid when she abandoned me, and my grandparents became my REAL PARENTS. Don’t call me again!” I finished and hung up the call.
Stanley tried calling, texting, e-mailing, and more for several days, but I blocked him. He also tried contacting my daughters, but they refused to listen to him. They knew my history with that side of the family.
Of course, Stanley and my mother bad-mouthed me to anyone who would listen. I have been severely judged for my decision, but I didn’t listen to their criticism. After all, no one ever judged my mother for what she did to me.
What can we learn from this story?
- Caring for your loved ones is important. While Brooke’s choice is controversial, it’s easy to understand her point of view, given her background.
- Forgiveness is divine. Sometimes, you have to be the bigger person. Caring for your parents when they’re old is a big duty, both financially and emotionally. Someone has to do it.
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I Brought My Son to Meet My Boyfriend’s Parents, What He Discovered in My Boyfriend’s Childhood Room Was Unbelievable
Mia, a dedicated single mom, felt a spark of hope with her new boyfriend, Jake. After four months of dating, they planned a weekend getaway to his family’s beach house. It seemed perfect, especially for her son, Luke, who was excited about the trip.
As a fourth-grade teacher, Mia loved her job and appreciated the time it allowed her to spend with Luke. His father rarely visited, so Mia was determined to create a happy home for them both.
Finally, she decided to introduce Luke to Jake. One sunny day, she nervously asked Luke if he wanted to meet someone special for lunch. He was intrigued and, after a fun lunch, the two bonded over dinosaurs and Lego. They enjoyed several weekends together, and Mia felt confident about their growing relationship.
When Jake invited them to his beach house, Mia and Luke were thrilled. Upon arriving, Jake’s parents welcomed them warmly. After exploring, Jake showed Luke his childhood toys while Mia admired the nostalgic room.
But everything changed when Luke suddenly rushed downstairs, pale and trembling. “Mom, we need to leave! I found a box with bones in Jake’s room!” Mia’s heart raced. “What do you mean, bones?”
“Real bones, Mom!” Luke insisted. Panic set in. Had she misjudged Jake? “Stay here”, she told Luke, her voice shaking. She hurried back to Jake’s room, and her heart dropped when she found the box under the bed. Inside were actual bones. Without thinking, she took Luke’s hand, and they bolted out of the house.
As they sped away, Mia’s phone buzzed with calls from Jake, but she couldn’t bear to answer. Once parked on the roadside, she called 911, fearing the worst. The police quickly called back. “Mia, the bones are fake,” the officer reassured her. “They’re replicas for teaching.”
Relief washed over her, but guilt quickly followed. How could she have jumped to such conclusions? With a deep breath, Mia called Jake. “I’m so sorry”, she said. “I was scared for Luke and overreacted.”
“Mia, it’s okay”, Jake replied. “You were just protecting him. Let’s turn this into a funny story, not a reason to break up.” Mia smiled, feeling lighter. She reassured Luke that everything was fine and they drove back to the beach house, where Jake’s parents were understandably worried.
After explaining the situation and apologizing for their abrupt departure, they spent the rest of the day relaxing by the ocean. That day became a fond memory, marking the start of an even stronger bond between Mia and Jake. Now, they often laugh about the wild escape from the beach house, grateful that it only brought them closer together. What do you think?
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