At 35, inexperienced Antonio Banderas suddenly became the father of 6-year-old and 10-year-old kids. Years have passed, and he lives an entirely different life, but he is still a part of their family.
Movie star Antonio Banderas married a woman with two young children and expressed that it was nerve-wracking to marry into a wholesome family of three while being inexperienced.
Spanish actor Antonio Banderas and actress Melanie Griffith met while still married to other people. Griffith was still married to actor Don Johnson whom she wed twice, but they officially separated in 1994.
Actor Antonio Banderas and actress Melanie Griffith pose at The Antonio Banderas’ Blue Seduction for Women fragrance launch at Cedar Lake on July 10, 2008 in New York City ┃Source: Getty Images
She later fell for Banderas, who happened to be her co-star at the time in the 1995 rom-com, “Two Much.” He was still technically married to his first wife, actress Ana Leza. However, the pair were going through a separation then.
A month after Banderas and Griffith finalized their divorces, they walked down the aisle again in an intimate ceremony on May 14, 1996, in London.
When asked what attracted him to the New York native, “The Legend of Zorro” star told AARP in November 2011 that he had “admired Melanie long before I met her.”
Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith during 12th Carousel of Hope Ball at Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California ┃Source: Getty Images
Banderas recalled the first time he saw Griffith in the 1988 movie, “Working Girl,” and was mesmerized by her beauty, “Wow, she’s so beautiful, so special,” he said. He later spotted her at the Oscar Awards on the red carpet but had forgotten her name:
“Pedro Almodovar said, ‘It’s Melanie Griffith, you idiot! She’s nominated for an Academy Award tonight!’ Six years after that, we’re married!”
When asked how they went from their working relationship to being romantically involved while starring in “Two Much,” Banderas revealed they were both “unhappy” in their marriages.
“Things don’t work out sometimes, and that’s the way it goes. But we recognized that we were unhappy. I saw her with her kids, and she was so beautiful as a mom,” said the Spain native.
Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith during the 55th Cannes film festival: Stairs of “Femme Fatale” on May 25, 2002 in Cannes, France ┃Source: Getty Images
Banderas explained that it is typical for co-stars to develop a connection while working together and that most of the time, after filming, everyone cuts ties, but the same cannot be said about him and Griffith.
They kept in touch frequently until they finally admitted they had feelings for each other. Something he noted “was not easy” to do. When the “Frida” star married the Golden Globe Award winner, she had two young children from her previous marriages.
Griffith had her first child, son Alexander, with actor Steven Bauer whom she wed in 1981 and divorced in 1989 following five years of marriage. She welcomed her eldest daughter Dakota with Johnson, whom she was married to between 1976-1976 and 1989-1996.
Banderas Became an ‘Inexperienced’ Stepdad to Griffith’s Kids
Asked how he tried to blend into the marriage being a stepfather to Griffin’s son and daughter, Banderas admitted that it was difficult because he had to reassure the kids that he was there to stay:
“It was hard because the kids had to accept me, and I was totally inexperienced. Suddenly, I had a 6-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy. But as soon as the kids knew I was there to stay, they were fine. They needed solid ground in which they could grow.”
Antonio Banderas, Melanie Griffith and children during The 61st Annual Golden Globe Awards – Arrivals at The Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California | Source: Getty Images
Once he came to that realization, the “Spy Kids” star began “establishing my relationship, giving them security, little by little doing the father thing.”
When asked how long it took to put the children’s minds at ease, Banderas divulged “it took less than a year” for his stepchildren “to realize that I was not temporary.”
Soon, his daughter Stella was born, which became overwhelming because he was still trying to get Alexander and Dakota to warm up to him.
Banderas Had a Huge Influence on His Stepdaughter’s Career
Banderas’ hard work bonding with his stepkids yielded positive results as he became instrumental in Dakota’s acting career. The “Fifty Shades of Grey” star first had her acting stint in her stepfather’s directorial debut, “Crazy in Alabama” in 1999, alongside her mother. Dakota played Sondra in the film.
As a young child, she spent time with Banderas on set and recalled bringing pop singer Madonna an Easter basket while filming “Evita” in Budapest in 1996.
ANTONIO BANDERAS’ STEPDAUGHTER DAKOTA JOHNSON STILL CALLS HIM ‘PAPI’ DESPITE HIS SPLIT WITH HER MOM
At 35, inexperienced Antonio Banderas suddenly became the father of 6-year-old and 10-year-old kids. Years have passed, and he lives an entirely different life, but he is still a part of their family.
Movie star Antonio Banderas married a woman with two young children and expressed that it was nerve-wracking to marry into a wholesome family of three while being inexperienced.
Spanish actor Antonio Banderas and actress Melanie Griffith met while still married to other people. Griffith was still married to actor Don Johnson whom she wed twice, but they officially separated in 1994.
Actor Antonio Banderas and actress Melanie Griffith pose at The Antonio Banderas’ Blue Seduction for Women fragrance launch at Cedar Lake on July 10, 2008 in New York City ┃Source: Getty Images
She later fell for Banderas, who happened to be her co-star at the time in the 1995 rom-com, “Two Much.” He was still technically married to his first wife, actress Ana Leza. However, the pair were going through a separation then.
A month after Banderas and Griffith finalized their divorces, they walked down the aisle again in an intimate ceremony on May 14, 1996, in London.
When asked what attracted him to the New York native, “The Legend of Zorro” star told AARP in November 2011 that he had “admired Melanie long before I met her.”
Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith during 12th Carousel of Hope Ball at Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California ┃Source: Getty Images
Banderas recalled the first time he saw Griffith in the 1988 movie, “Working Girl,” and was mesmerized by her beauty, “Wow, she’s so beautiful, so special,” he said. He later spotted her at the Oscar Awards on the red carpet but had forgotten her name:
“Pedro Almodovar said, ‘It’s Melanie Griffith, you idiot! She’s nominated for an Academy Award tonight!’ Six years after that, we’re married!”
When asked how they went from their working relationship to being romantically involved while starring in “Two Much,” Banderas revealed they were both “unhappy” in their marriages.
“Things don’t work out sometimes, and that’s the way it goes. But we recognized that we were unhappy. I saw her with her kids, and she was so beautiful as a mom,” said the Spain native.
Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith during the 55th Cannes film festival: Stairs of “Femme Fatale” on May 25, 2002 in Cannes, France ┃Source: Getty Images
Banderas explained that it is typical for co-stars to develop a connection while working together and that most of the time, after filming, everyone cuts ties, but the same cannot be said about him and Griffith.
They kept in touch frequently until they finally admitted they had feelings for each other. Something he noted “was not easy” to do. When the “Frida” star married the Golden Globe Award winner, she had two young children from her previous marriages.
Griffith had her first child, son Alexander, with actor Steven Bauer whom she wed in 1981 and divorced in 1989 following five years of marriage. She welcomed her eldest daughter Dakota with Johnson, whom she was married to between 1976-1976 and 1989-1996.
Banderas Became an ‘Inexperienced’ Stepdad to Griffith’s Kids
Asked how he tried to blend into the marriage being a stepfather to Griffin’s son and daughter, Banderas admitted that it was difficult because he had to reassure the kids that he was there to stay:
“It was hard because the kids had to accept me, and I was totally inexperienced. Suddenly, I had a 6-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy. But as soon as the kids knew I was there to stay, they were fine. They needed solid ground in which they could grow.”
Antonio Banderas, Melanie Griffith and children during The 61st Annual Golden Globe Awards – Arrivals at The Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California | Source: Getty Images
Once he came to that realization, the “Spy Kids” star began “establishing my relationship, giving them security, little by little doing the father thing.”
When asked how long it took to put the children’s minds at ease, Banderas divulged “it took less than a year” for his stepchildren “to realize that I was not temporary.”
Soon, his daughter Stella was born, which became overwhelming because he was still trying to get Alexander and Dakota to warm up to him.
Banderas Had a Huge Influence on His Stepdaughter’s Career
Banderas’ hard work bonding with his stepkids yielded positive results as he became instrumental in Dakota’s acting career. The “Fifty Shades of Grey” star first had her acting stint in her stepfather’s directorial debut, “Crazy in Alabama” in 1999, alongside her mother. Dakota played Sondra in the film.
As a young child, she spent time with Banderas on set and recalled bringing pop singer Madonna an Easter basket while filming “Evita” in Budapest in 1996.
Her stepdad also cherishes such memories, and he once gushed:” She’s my daughter. I love her. I’ve been with her on my shoulders, traveling all around the world.”
Banderas also revealed Dakota’s sweet nickname for him while growing up, which is a combination of the word “daddy” in his native language and his name:
“Dakota called me Paponio, which is a mixture between papa, which is ‘daddy’ in Spanish, and Antonio. I’m her Antonio papa, so Paponio.”
Sadly, Banderas and Dakota’s mom filed for divorce in June 2014 following 18 years of marriage and released a joint statement that read:
“We have thoughtfully and consensually decided to finalize our almost twenty years marriage in a loving and friendly manner honoring and respecting each other, our family and friends, and the beautiful time we have spent together – Melanie & Antonio.”
The former couple had an amicable separation, and Griffith cited irreconcilable differences as the reason why she and Banderas parted ways.
Dakota Still Maintains a Loving Relationship with Her Stepfather
Many years later, her daughter presented Banderas with the Best Actor Award at the 2019 Hollywood Film Awards in a touching speech. Dakota got emotional when lovingly talking about her stepfather while calling him by her childhood nickname:
“I come from a family of many a marriage, and I got very lucky. I got a bonus dad who I realized that, over time, is actually one of the most influential people in my whole life.”
The Texas native said Banderas brightened their lives and shared his sense of “creativity and culture” with them, adding he brought “one remarkably magical little sister into our family.”
Chocking up, Dakota stated: “My stepfather! Antonio Banderas burst into our lives. He was so vibrant and fun and funny, and his English was abstract, and we found it amazing.” She said he “loved” her mom and her and her siblings so much that it changed their “lives forever.”
In his acceptance speech, Banderas dedicated the award to” two people” he loved, including Dakota, saying it was because she had always called him “Papi” and still does, which he loves. Following the event, the devoted stepdad told E! News Online that he “had no idea” that his stepchild would be honoring him with such a heart-warming speech:
“It was all a surprise. I knew that she was going to give the speech, but I had no idea whatsoever how she was going to do her speech. She didn’t tell me anything.
The proud father said it brought back all those memories he created with his blended family and that “it was a confirmation” that the time he spent with Griffith was not only about them but “about the family. They were all worth it.”
In February 2015, Banderas was promoting his animated film “The SpongeBob Movie: Sponge Out of Water,” which was to be released the same weekend as Dakota’s “Fifty Shades of Grey” movie, and mentioned what a stellar actress she was.
He emphasized that there was “no competition” between him and his stepdaughter because their audiences differed for the films. “I wish Dakota the best, not only because of this movie,” but because he and the rest of the family, including Dakota’s biological father, knew she was an excellent performer.
Banderas added that Dakota would have a thriving career because she is versatile in portraying different characters. She nails comedy, which was evident in the TV series “Ben & Kate,” and drama too, which showed in the movie, he said. He noted that it was a window of “opportunity” for Dakota and that he knew she would grab it with both hands and run with it.
Meu marido me acordou no meio da noite durante minha gravidez — o motivo dele me fez pedir o divórcio na manhã seguinte
Com trinta e quatro semanas de gravidez e dormindo profundamente, fui acordada com um sobressalto pelos gritos urgentes do meu marido na calada da noite. A razão dele destruiu meu mundo e, pela manhã, não tive escolha a não ser pedir o divórcio.
Enquanto aguardo a chegada do meu bebê, meu coração está pesado de tristeza. Minha data prevista para o parto é daqui a apenas duas semanas, e estou dividida entre dar as boas-vindas ao meu pequeno pacote de alegria no mundo e me divorciar do meu marido. Meu nome é Mary, e esta é a história de como uma noite fatídica mudou tudo…
Foto lateral em tons de cinza de uma mulher grávida | Fonte: Pexels
Já faz cinco anos que Daniel e eu nos conhecemos, e nosso casamento tem sido perfeito… ou assim eu pensava.
“Você está sendo ridícula, Mary”, meu marido dizia sempre que eu me preocupava com fogo. “Há um alarme de fumaça, qual é a pior coisa que pode acontecer?”
Mas eu não conseguia me livrar do medo.
“A casa da minha mãe pegou fogo quando eu tinha 17 anos. Perdemos nosso cachorro de estimação, vovô. O cheiro de fumaça ainda me assombra, Dan”, eu disse uma vez a Daniel, mas ele apenas deu um tapinha na minha mão e disse para não me preocupar.
Lembrei-me daquela noite fatídica: o cheiro de fumaça, o som das sirenes e a sensação de pânico quando papai, mamãe e eu saímos de baixo da fumaça.
Foto noturna de um prédio em chamas | Fonte: Pexels
Nossos vizinhos e a equipe de resgate nos salvaram, mas perdemos tudo. O trauma ainda persiste, e as garantias constantes de Daniel não fizeram nada para acalmar meus medos.
Ultimamente, tenho verificado tudo duas vezes antes de dormir. Certifico-me de que as tomadas elétricas estão desligadas, o fogão está desligado e não há velas acesas.
Close-up de uma mulher girando o botão do fogão | Fonte: Pexels
Daniel ficava irritado, mas eu não conseguia evitar. Meu coração e minha mente não ouviam. Eu tinha que ter certeza de que estávamos seguros… que nosso bebê estava seguro.
“Não vamos ter um incêndio em casa, Mary. Você está apenas sendo paranóica”, Daniel diria. Mas eu sabia o que sentia.
Duas noites atrás, ele chegou do trabalho com os amigos. Eles estavam descansando na sala de estar, causando uma grande perturbação.
Três homens sentados em um sofá e gritando | Fonte: Freepik
Eu o puxei de lado e pedi para ele mandá-los embora, explicando que eu precisava de um pouco de paz e sossego. Daniel insistiu que eles estavam apenas tendo “diversão inofensiva” e que ele queria aproveitar o tempo com seus amigos antes que o bebê chegasse.
Não discuti mais e apenas peguei meu travesseiro de gravidez antes de subir correndo para o nosso quarto.
Adormeci enquanto o barulho lá de baixo lentamente desaparecia. De repente, ouvi a voz estrondosa de Daniel: “Mary, querida, levanta! Levanta! Fogo, fogo, fogo! Levanta!”
Meu coração disparou enquanto a adrenalina percorria meu corpo.
Uma mulher chocada cobrindo a boca | Fonte: Pexels
Peguei meu travesseiro e cobertor, instintivamente cobrindo minha barriga como se para protegê-la. Abri a porta e corri escada abaixo, gritando para Daniel abrir a porta e chamar o corpo de bombeiros.
Quando cheguei à sala de estar, os amigos de Daniel começaram a rir. Daniel caminhou até eles, cacarejando como uma hiena. Eu estava confuso e desorientado.
“O que está acontecendo?”, perguntei, ainda tentando processar a situação.
Um homem rindo com os braços cruzados | Fonte: Freepik
Daniel continuou a rir, explicando que seus amigos queriam se “divertir” e pregar uma peça em mim. Eles tinham dito para ele gritar “Fogo! Fogo!” para me assustar.
Eu me senti como se tivesse levado um soco no estômago. Raiva e medo surgiram na superfície. Parei Daniel no meio do caminho e o confrontei.
“Como você pôde fazer isso comigo? Como você pôde brincar com meu medo desse jeito?” Eu gritei, com lágrimas escorrendo pelo meu rosto.
Uma mulher irritada segurando a cabeça | Fonte: Pexels
A risada de Daniel desapareceu, e ele começou a se desculpar profusamente. Mas era tarde demais. O dano estava feito. Meu coração estava acelerado, e minha mente estava girando.
“Você não deveria ter feito isso, Daniel”, retruquei, virando-me e subindo as escadas novamente.
Eu me tranquei em nosso quarto, tentando organizar meus pensamentos. Lágrimas picaram nos cantos dos meus olhos enquanto eu pensava no descuido de Daniel.
Como ele não conseguia entender que isso ainda era um gatilho para mim? Que o cheiro de fumaça e o som de sirenes sempre ficariam gravados na minha memória como uma cicatriz?
Um homem rindo com as mãos no quadril | Fonte: Freepik
Eu não conseguia acreditar que o deixei fazer isso comigo. Pensei que tínhamos superado isso. Pensei que estávamos trabalhando em confiança e compreensão.
Quando me sentei na cama, me senti preso. As paredes pareciam se fechar em mim. Respirei fundo, tentando me acalmar, mas minha mente continuava acelerada.
Por que Daniel faria isso? Ele tinha esquecido o que eu tinha passado? Ele simplesmente não se importava com meus sentimentos? Eu estava acostumada com suas brincadeiras infantis, mas isso? Isso era cruel.
Uma mulher grávida sentada na cama segurando a barriga | Fonte: Pexels
Eu precisava de alguém para conversar, alguém que me entendesse.
Peguei meu telefone e disquei um número que eu sabia de cor.
“Pai?”, eu disse, tentando manter a voz firme.
“Ei, garoto”, respondeu a voz calorosa do meu pai. “O que está acontecendo?”
Respirei fundo e deixei tudo sair. “Pai, Daniel fez uma coisa estúpida, e isso realmente me irritou… muito.”
Um homem idoso falando ao telefone | Fonte: Pexels
O tom do meu pai ficou sério. “Ok, querida, acalme-se. Conte-me o que aconteceu.”
Respirei fundo novamente e expliquei tudo, desde a brincadeira até meu colapso subsequente.
Quando terminei, meu pai escutou em silêncio por um momento antes de falar. “Mary, sinto muito que você esteja passando por isso. Estou indo.”
Uma mulher grávida falando ao telefone | Fonte: Pexels
Um nó se formou na minha garganta. “Pai, às vezes me sinto preso em um ciclo interminável de medo e ansiedade.”
A voz do meu pai suavizou. “Você não está sozinha, Mary. Você é forte e pode superar isso. Nós vamos descobrir isso juntos.”
Dez minutos depois, ouvi o som familiar do carro do papai parando lá fora.
A porta se abriu, e meu pai entrou, sua expressão severa. “Mary, vamos. Estamos indo.”
Foto noturna de veículos na rua | Fonte: Pexels
Eu assenti e juntei meus pertences. Daniel permaneceu sentado no sofá, sua expressão presunçosa e despreocupada inalterada. Seus amigos já tinham ido embora há muito tempo depois do caos que eles criaram. Eu o ignorei e me concentrei em arrumar minhas coisas.
Quando saímos do apartamento, notei como os olhos do meu pai estavam fixos nos de Daniel.
“Você teve sorte que eu não perdi a cabeça com você agora, amigo”, ele murmurou baixinho.
Close-up dos olhos de um homem idoso irritado | Fonte: Pexels
Nós dirigimos em silêncio por alguns minutos, os únicos sons eram o zumbido do motor, uma música suave e o distante tamborilar da chuva.
Finalmente, meu pai falou. “Aquele garoto tem sérios problemas. Ele sabe que não deve te pressionar desse jeito.”
Senti uma pontada de tristeza ao pensar nas ações de Daniel. “Eu sei, pai. É que… às vezes sinto que ele não se importa comigo ou com meus sentimentos.”
Um carro em uma estrada vazia em uma noite chuvosa | Fonte: Pexels
Meu pai colocou uma mão no meu joelho. “Você vale muito mais do que isso, Mary. Não deixe que ele diminua sua luz.”
Sorri levemente com suas palavras, sentindo uma sensação de conforto tomar conta de mim.
Chegamos em casa, e papai abriu a porta. “Vamos te levar para dentro e te acomodar. Nós lidamos com Daniel depois.”
No silêncio da noite, o impacto total das ações de Daniel me atingiu. Não era uma piada; era uma tentativa deliberada de me assustar, e enquanto eu estava grávida, nada menos.
Uma mulher grávida sentada na cama segurando um copo de água | Fonte: Pexels
O pensamento enviou uma onda de medo através de mim. E se algo acontecesse comigo ou com nosso bebê por causa da estupidez dele? A incerteza era sufocante.
Na manhã seguinte, acordei com uma sensação de determinação. Eu não podia deixar o comportamento de Daniel definir nosso relacionamento ou minha gravidez. Eu precisava assumir o controle e proteger a mim mesma e ao meu bebê.
Liguei para meu advogado e pedi o divórcio, sabendo que não seria fácil, mas era necessário.
Close-up de papéis de divórcio em uma mesa marrom | Fonte: Pexels
Meu pai me apoiou, como sempre, mas minha mãe foi menos compreensiva. Ela continuou me dizendo que eu estava exagerando e que Daniel não queria me machucar.
Mas eu sabia melhor. Daniel tinha brincado com meus medos, e isso não era uma piada. Não era só sobre mim; era sobre nosso filho também. Que tipo de pai ele seria se não conseguisse nem respeitar os limites ou medos de sua parceira?
Uma mulher chateada cobrindo o rosto | Fonte: Pexels
Já faz dois dias que tomei a difícil decisão de iniciar o processo de divórcio. Daniel tem me bombardeado com desculpas e promessas de mudança, mas é tarde demais. O dano está feito, e meus sentimentos foram irreparavelmente feridos.
Percebi que minhas emoções não são algo para ser encarado levianamente ou brincado, e já passou da hora de Daniel entender isso.
Close-up de um homem usando um smartphone | Fonte: Pexels
O que você faria se estivesse no meu lugar? Você tomaria o controle, priorizaria sua segurança e bem-estar e protegeria seu filho da influência tóxica de alguém que não se importasse com seus sentimentos ou bem-estar? Ou você escolheria perdoar e esquecer, esperando que as coisas magicamente melhorassem?
Close de uma mulher grávida segurando sua barriga de grávida | Fonte: Unsplash
Aqui vai outra história : quando Lara recebe uma caixa misteriosa da amante de seu marido em seu aniversário, ela mal sabia que seu mundo estava a poucos minutos de desabar.
Este trabalho é inspirado em eventos e pessoas reais, mas foi ficcionalizado para fins criativos. Nomes, personagens e detalhes foram alterados para proteger a privacidade e melhorar a narrativa. Qualquer semelhança com pessoas reais, vivas ou mortas, ou eventos reais é mera coincidência e não intencional do autor.
O autor e a editora não fazem nenhuma reivindicação quanto à precisão dos eventos ou à representação dos personagens e não são responsáveis por nenhuma interpretação errônea. Esta história é fornecida “como está”, e quaisquer opiniões expressas são as dos personagens e não refletem as opiniões do autor ou da editora.
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