It was anticipated that Jennifer Grey, who played “Baby” in the iconic movie Dirty Dancing, would have much better employment chances.
However, it was not intended to be. Rather, a horrible incident drastically altered everything and forced her to permanently quit the film industry.
Jennifer Grey has finally opened out about the terrible period of her life that left her permanently traumatized after many years.
But the cast and crew knew what they had done as soon as Dirty Dancing hit theaters in August 1987.
Patrick Swayze, the male protagonist, was successful right away. He became well-known as a teen idol and sex icon before starring in popular films like Ghost and Donnie Darko.
However, his co-star Jennifer Grey wasn’t doing well when the movie came out, and she quickly disappeared. Jennifer Grey disappeared as abruptly as she had appeared amid the joy and celebrations.
Additionally, the actress was absent from the media for a very long time.
However, in a recent interview, she talked candidly about the accident that changed her life.
However, let’s first look at Jennifer Grey’s life before to the tragic event that occurred in the summer of 1987.
Jennifer Gray started attending dance classes at a young age. Her father may have urged her to seek a career in entertainment when she was born in New York in 1960. Her father, Joel Gray, was an actor, singer, dancer, photographer, and director.
During her time at Dalton School, Jennifer focused on dancing and acting. After graduating in 1978, she enrolled in the Neighborhood Playhouse School of the Theater and began looking for performing roles. At the same time, her life was not exactly a dance on roses. Jennifer was compelled to work as a waitress to help pay the expenses.
She managed to land a few TV commercial jobs despite this, including one for Dr. Pepper. Her first acting role was in the 1984 movie “Reckless.” She received a big break a few years later when she starred as Frances “Baby” Houseman in the film “Dirty Dancing.”
Author Eleanor Bergstein’s childhood served as a major inspiration for the story of this well-loved film. Jennifer became well-known overnight and received a Golden Globe nomination for Best Actress.
Unfortunately, she was never able to capitalize on the enormous success.
Shortly before the film’s August 1987 release, Grey and her then-boyfriend Matthew Broderick were residing in Ireland.
However, the pair suffered a terrible car accident when Broderick struck another vehicle while driving on the wrong side of the road. A woman and her daughter were in the second car, and they both perished instantly.
Eventually, the charge of reckless driving against Broderick was dropped in favor of reckless driving. Jennifer Grey’s psychological wounds remained even if she only had minor physical injuries like bruises.
Dirty Dancing made its debut just a few days later. However, Grey was unable to enjoy the film in spite of its widespread appeal.
It just didn’t make sense to contrast that intense suffering, the survivor’s guilt, and then being heralded as the next big thing. Being the talk of the town didn’t feel good, according to Grey.
The trauma induced by the accident will never fully heal the actress.
“My ambition was never the same, and my brain was never the same,” she said.
Hellish nose job
She fought survivor’s guilt, disappeared for a few years in the early 1990s, and then reappeared in a 1995 Friends episode.
By then, she had had plastic surgery, and her face was a whole makeover.
It was similar to being in a witness protection program or feeling anonymous. The nose job was the worst I’ve ever had. No one will ever identify me as the former well-known actress with the nose job.
Jennifer’s Hollywood career was sporadic after that.
By 2010, Jennifer had re-established herself in the mainstream media. After winning the TV show “Dancing with the Stars,” she was once again a passionate fan favorite. That was something that was important to her, she said.
“I feel like I’ve starved myself because I’m afraid of what other people think of me,” the celebrity remarked. “It’s like eating a wonderful steak after being on a diet for 23 years.”
In 2018, Grey returns to the public eye once more. Both “Untogether” and the upcoming comedy “Red Oaks” will include her.
We’re so happy that you’re back to being enthusiastic and happy, Jennifer!
Now, who else is nostalgic enough to wish to go back to 1987? Below is the famous scene from Dirty Dancing. Such lovely recollections!
My Daughter-in-Law Ruined the Vacation I Had Been Dreaming of — So I Showed Her the Importance of Respect
Now don’t get me wrong, she wasn’t annoying me because I was a mean mother-in-law (MIL) who hated her. But because of her selfish question. It seemed I was expected to always be around. “I am going on a vacation to the Bahamas. I already bought the tickets and booked myself at a lovely hotel.”
My son and DIL exchanged surprised looks before staring at me as if I’d grown a second head. “This is so unlike you, mom. Who are you going with?” I rolled my eyes at George’s response. He’d somehow forgotten that before he had kids, I was jetsetting every few months!
“That’s not true my love. I used to travel all the time when my time was mine,” I replied a bit irritated. I couldn’t believe how clueless he’d become when it came to my life. “Well, where are we going to get someone to babysit the kids for free every day?”
I realized at that moment that I’d spoiled these two. “Your parents are a start, Sarah. Arrange play dates with your friends’ children or something, I don’t know,” I said in frustration. Why was I the one who had to figure out what THEY did with their own children?
It dawned on me how much I had made them dependent on me. It wasn’t my intention, I think I took the Gam-Gam role a bit too far, and I so loved my little munchkins! They gave me so much to live for. But I was tired and needed a break.
Without waiting for their response, which I anticipated would make me angry, I turned to leave. “I will send you the details of when I leave, where I’ll be staying, and when I’ll return. Toodles!” I heard them falling over themselves as they tried to catch up to my quick stride.
They were LITERALLY trying to get ME to tell THEM what to do with their children! But I was having none of it and quickly closed the door before rushing to my car and driving away. Yes, I felt like I was escaping and running away from my responsibilities and I HATED that feeling!
When I arrived home, my DIL had left several voice messages that I had no intention of listening to. My therapist was the one who made me realize I was overworked and needed some time off. I was oblivious to that as I continued stretching myself to my limits.
She, my therapist, knocked it into my head that I was overcompensating by trying to be the best MIL and grandmother while losing myself. I stuck to my promise and sent George and Sarah all the details of my travels as a courtesy.
The next few weeks were filled with Sarah trying to convince me to leave with the kids. When she wasn’t trying to do that, she tried to get me to stay and not leave. “I need to do this for ME, Sarah. You won’t understand,” I explained, trying to get her off my back.
If my DIL wasn’t the one pestering me, my son got in on it. But with the words of my therapist playing in my head, “Stick to your guns. You are doing this for YOUR well-being,” I remained resolute in my decision.
When the fateful day came, I announced my departure to my son and left. For two glorious days on vacation, I had nothing but massages, long beach walks, drank piña coladas, and enjoyed the sunsets!
On the third day, my mood was spoiled when I suddenly received a disturbing message from my DIL. “George is on his business trip, my parents have house repairs, and I’m going on MY retreat,” her text began.
“And you know what? It’s in the Bahamas!! Isn’t it amazing? We’re already boarding, I need you to watch the kiddos!” Annoyed is an understatement for what I was feeling! I couldn’t understand, so HER parents have repairs, and I have a vacation, so I can babysit the kids?!
I was MAD AS HELL! I was practically seething! This time I leaned on my own faculties and decided to teach her a lesson on mutual respect. When they pitched, I was my usual affectionate self to my grandbabies and hugged and kissed them.
I then spent an hour bonding with the pair while Sarah mumbled about how SHE had to MEDITATE tomorrow. But the next day, I got an irritated call from her. “WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON? WHERE ARE YOU?!” she had the nerve to demand.
All calm and relaxed as I had anticipated that type of response, I answered, “I’m at the spa, getting a massage. Why do you ask?” Sounding more frustrated, my DIL replied, “Why would you not answer your phone?!”
“The kids have been driving ME crazy, and I need a break!” I had finally had enough of her nonsense and took a deep breath before responding. “I hear you talking about what YOU need and want, but have you asked ME what my plans are?”
“Has it even occurred to YOU to find out if I WANT to babysit during MY vacation and time away?” I heard her gasp as she tried cutting in all respectful this time, saying, “Mrs. Thomas, I…” But I cut her off and continued my rant.
“Do you know what I am doing here, huh? Do you even CARE?” My voice went up a notch. “You receive what you deserve, Sarah. And maybe it’s time for YOU and George to learn a lesson about respect!”
My DIL was stunned into silence. She realized for the first time in two years the depth of her imposition. Her voice had softened as she stammered, “I… I didn’t think… I just assumed…”
I wasn’t done with her as I replied, “That’s exactly the problem we have, you assumed and KEEP assuming. I love my grandkids, but I also NEED my own time.”
“This was MY vacation. It’s time I took off so I can recuperate and have some self-care.” I could hear from the silence on the other side that Sarah was feeling guilty. She was FINALLY understanding where I was coming from.
“I’ve given you and Georgie two long years of my love and dedication.” I shared how I’d stretched myself because I wanted to be a good MIL and grandmother. I also wanted to be there for them as they transitioned into parenthood.
But then I went too far as they kept demanding more and more of my time. I confessed to my DIL that I started feeling burnt out. Yet, because I hadn’t felt the feeling before, I didn’t realize what was happening to me.
A friend I confided in suggested I see her therapist. That’s when it finally clicked that I was wearing myself thin. I was quite upset as I ended my rant by stating, “Next time, respect MY plans and ask, don’t just assume I’m here to serve your convenience!”
Sarah paused for a long time on the other end of the line and I was about to say something when she finally sighed. It appeared she finally understood the weight of my words and where I was coming from.
“You’re right. I’m sorry. I should have asked. I’ll make other arrangements,” my DIL replied, sounding defeated. I won’t lie, I felt a tinge of regret for how I approached things, but decided it was something that had to be done.
After all, as they say, people treat the way you teach them to. I thanked her for understanding. “Now, I’m going to enjoy the rest of my vacation. I suggest you find a way to enjoy yours too, without relying on me.”
I didn’t wait for a response before hanging up and felt the most serene wave of satisfaction! I had stood up for myself and drew boundaries that taught my DIL a valuable life lesson! I happily returned to my massage, content that I would not be disturbed anymore.
I felt the stress melt away from my body as the masseuse kneaded longstanding knots that had built up over the years. I was pleased to know that I had managed to reclaim my well-deserved break.
Unfortunately, Mrs. Thomas isn’t the only person who’s had to take measures to teach people important lessons. Mark’s mother kept nagging his pregnant wife to the point that the younger woman had to leave. Not wanting his mother to miss her mistake, Mark found a clever way to teach the parent about respect and boundaries.
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