When Elliot Costello and a group of other people visited Cambodia, he had an encounter with a young girl named Thea.
Little did Elliot know that this encounter would have an impact so profound on him that it would help start a movement whose goal is to end sexual abuse against children.
Namely, Thea always had nail polish on her tiny nails. One day, as she and Elliot chatted, she asked to paint one of his nails. He agreed and was happy to speak to the chatty girl, but he then learned that she was once a victim of sexual abuse.
“As she painted one of my nails, I assured her I would always keep it that way to remember her, and by extension, her suffering,” Elliot said.
This motivated Elliot to try and make positive change among men so that less and less children fall victims of sexual abuse.
That is when he came up with the movement called #PolishedMan where men put nail polish on one of their nails. That one nail represents the one in five children who will be victims of sexual violence.
Polished Man works towards ending sexual violence against children. According to the organization, “being a Polished Man means challenging violent behavior and language, both locally and globally.”
Elliot believes that since men are responsible for 96% of this type of violence against children globally, they should be catalyst for change if we are ever to see an end to the abuse of innocent children.
The goal with the painted nail isn’t just to remind people of the number of children who are abused every single day, but to serve as a conversation starter about this reality, leading to new ideas about prevention. He also hopes that people will start donating to “support educational programs and resources for child survivors of abuse,” as per APlus.
We hope that more men, including celebrities would be willing to join this movement.
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In the late summer of 1997, amidst the bustling halls of a Cape Town maternity hospital, Celeste Nurse awoke to a nightmare. Her infant daughter, cradled closely in her arms just moments before, was now inexplicably missing. A woman disguised as a nurse had stealthily absconded with the child while Celeste dozed off, leaving behind a void that would haunt the Nurses for two decades.
Year after year, they commemorated their daughter’s birthday with bittersweet celebrations, clinging to hope amid the anguish of uncertainty. Then, in a remarkable turn of events in 2015, a glimmer of possibility emerged. With the arrival of a new addition to the Nurse family, named Zephany, hope stirred once more.
Zephany bore an uncanny resemblance to their long-lost daughter, sharing not only her features but also her birthday. Astonished by this revelation, the Nurses wasted no time in seeking confirmation, enlisting the aid of authorities for a DNA test. The results validated their deepest yearnings – Zephany was indeed their missing child.
“DNA is a truth teller. It affirmed what our hearts always believed”, reflected Celeste Nurse on the profound moment of reunion. However, for Zephany, then known as Miché Solomon, the revelation unraveled her world. Despite her birth certificate asserting her origin at Retreat Hospital, records of her birth were conspicuously absent.
As the legal proceedings unfolded, Miché grappled with the revelation that Lavona Solomon, the woman she had always regarded as her mother, stood accused of kidnapping and fraud. Lavona professed her innocence, claiming she had received the baby from a woman named Sylvia, an assertion unsupported by evidence.
Ultimately, Lavona received a ten-year sentence for her crimes, leaving Miché to navigate the complex terrain of her dual identity. Reunited with her biological parents under the guidance of compassionate social workers, Miché wrestled with conflicting loyalties.
“It was a battle waged in the recesses of my mind and heart”, confessed Miché, torn between the families vying for her allegiance. Despite her reunion with her birth parents, Miché found solace in returning to Michael Solomon, the man she still considered her father, following her parents’ separation.
Yet, the reconciliation was fraught with challenges as Miché struggled to reconcile her two identities, opting to retain her given name rather than reverting to Zephany. While she maintains occasional visits to Lavona in prison, Miché endeavors to forge ahead, embracing the truth that, though painful, liberated her from a life built on deceit.
“I am both Miché and Zephany, a synthesis of two worlds”, she declared, embracing the complexities of her past while charting a course towards a future defined by authenticity and forgiveness.
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