This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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YOU WON’T BELIEVE HOW STUNNING THESE 11 WOMEN LOOKED AT THE 2024 PARIS OLYMPICS
The 2024 Paris Olympics brought together the best athletes from around the world for an exciting event. Among the many incredible performances, 11 women stood out not just for their skills but also for their beauty.
The Olympics began in July in Paris, France, where athletes from all over the world competed. The games were filled with impressive achievements and thrilling moments.
However, 11 women stood out for both their athletic talent and their undeniable beauty. From Ukrainian stars to American champions, these stunning athletes captured hearts at the 2024 Paris Olympics.
11 – Iryna Gerashchenko
Iryna Gerashchenko from Ukraine made a big impression at the 2024 Paris Olympics as a top high jumper. Not only did she showcase her amazing athletic skills, but her striking beauty also caught everyone’s eye. Iryna has become a standout figure both on and off the track.
On May 19, 2022, Iryna Gerashchenko posted a beautiful photo on Instagram. She wore a red and white blouse with a Ukrainian flag fin. Her dark, straight hair framed her face gracefully, accentuating her high cheekbones and expressive eyes. With minimal makeup, her flawless skin and natural beauty really shone through.
On March 7, 2024, Iryna Gerashchenko showed off a different side of her beauty. She wore a stunning red strapless gown with feathered details, radiating confidence and sophistication.
The bold red color beautifully contrasted with her fair skin, and the strapless design highlighted her toned shoulders and collarbones. Her makeup was more pronounced in this photo, enhancing her striking features.
10 – Gabby Thomas
Gabrielle Thomas, better known as Gabby Thomas, is a top sprinter from the United States who made a big impact at the 2024 Paris Olympics. Known for her impressive speed on the track, Gabby also caught attention for her striking beauty and magnetic presence.
On November 6, 2023, Gabby Thomas shared a powerful and graceful photo on Instagram to announce her partnership with New Balance. Her captivating eyes and light brown wavy hair framed her face beautifully, highlighting her radiant complexion.
In the sleek black athletic outfit, her toned physique was on full display. The crop top accentuated her well-defined abs, and the fitted shorts showcased her strong legs, perfectly blending beauty and athleticism.
9 – Apsara Sakbun
Apsara Sakbun, representing Cambodia, made her Olympic debut at the Paris 2024 Games as a swimmer. She quickly became a fan favorite with her impressive performances in the pool and her stunning beauty.
8 – Luana Alonso
Luana Alonso, a rising swimmer from Paraguay, made her Olympic debut at the Paris 2024 Games. Competing in several swimming events, she drew attention for her impressive skills in the water and her striking beauty.
7 – Yaroslava Maguchih
Yaroslava Maguchih, from Ukraine, competed as a high jumper at the Paris 2024 Games. Renowned for her remarkable talent in the sport, Maguchih also drew global attention with her stunning beauty and graceful presence.
6 – Dina Asher-Smith
Dina Asher-Smith, from the United Kingdom, made a notable debut as a sprinter at the Paris 2024 Games. Renowned for her impressive speed and agility on the track, Asher-Smith also captivated fans with her striking beauty.
5 – Yulia Levchenko
Yulia Levchenko, representing Ukraine, competed as a high jumper at the Paris 2024 Olympic Games. Celebrated for her remarkable athletic talent, Levchenko also won admiration for her stunning looks and charismatic presence.
4 – Simone Biles
Simone Biles, the iconic gymnast from the United States, is widely considered one of the greatest gymnasts ever. At the Paris 2024 Olympic Games, she dazzled not only with her outstanding athletic achievements but also with her stunning beauty and magnetic presence.
3 – Daria Bilodid
Daria Bilodid, from Ukraine, competed as a judoka at the Paris 2024 Olympic Games. Renowned for her exceptional skills in judo, Bilodid became a standout athlete. Her stunning beauty also captivated many spectators and added to her popularity.
2 – Suni Lee
Suni Lee, representing the United States at the Paris 2024 Olympic Games, is a celebrated gymnast. As she showcased her exceptional skills on the gymnastics floor, Lee also drew global attention for her stunning beauty and vibrant personality.
1 – Alica Schmidt
Alica Schmidt, a standout track and field athlete from Germany, made waves at the Paris 2024 Olympic Games. Renowned for her impressive speed and dedication on the track, Schmidt also captured widespread attention with her striking beauty.
The 2024 Paris Olympics was a showcase of extraordinary talent and memorable moments. Among the athletes, 11 remarkable women stood out not only for their incredible skills but also for their striking beauty. These athletes demonstrated that strength and elegance can go hand in hand, captivating audiences around the world.
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