Dysfunctional families affect the quality of life of each of the members, especially the children. These troubled relationships cause chronic feelings of guilt, shame, or worthlessness, as well as attachment issues.
The teenager who shared her story on Reddit some time ago comes from such a family where the father is basically absent from his children’s lives despite living under one roof with them.
She took to the Reddit thread AITA to explain that it was her mother who took care of her and her siblings while the father wasn’t really involved in their upbringing.
One day, as he got home and left his mobile phone on the table, OP could read the message that he received at that moment which said, “last night was amazing, can’t wait to see you again” and some emojis.
After thinking about it for a short time, she decided to tell her mother that her dad was cheating on her. “She got pretty emotional which I felt bad about, and told me not to worry and that I should just worry about being a kid and let her take care of the rest, so I just let it go cause I didn’t want to hurt her more.”
One evening, the entire family gathered for dinner at OP’s grandfathers. There, her cousin shared the news that she started a new job. Everyone was pleased with the news, but then OP’s father told OP that she should be more like her cousin because she wasn’t any good according to him. But he didn’t stop there. In fact, he continued shaming OP telling her she should focus more on school and a lot more.
At one moment he mentioned that OP lacked respect for him, and that was the final straw.
At this point, OP had it enough. “Hard to respect you when you openly cheat on Mom and don’t even try to hide it,” she said in front of everyone.
The room went silent at first, but then her father started yelling both at her and her mother. The mom then took her kids and told her husband she shouldn’t be returning home.
Once home, OP started receiving text messages from her relatives who accused her of ruining the evening and the family. Her mom, however, told her “that she understood my frustration and I probably should have expressed it better privately but what’s done is done.”
Redditors were quick to comment that OP was NTA.
What are your thoughts on this?
I Moved Back to My Hometown with My Son, but My Old Friends’ Shocking Stares Left Me Puzzled
Wow, what an intense story! It takes so much courage to start a family on your own, and then to face an unexpected twist like that? I can only imagine how mind-blowing it must be to discover that your son’s father is your lifelong friend, Jude, and not a donor. It’s incredible how life has a way of looping back and surprising us, especially with people who have always been there, even if we didn’t realize how deep their role was. That moment of realization must have brought up so many emotions, like awe, confusion, and probably a bit of panic too.
The way small-town interactions slowly revealed the truth about Alan’s parentage is so cinematic—it’s almost like a movie unfolding right before your eyes, and it makes you wonder how much others see that we might overlook in the rush of life. And seeing Jude’s reaction at the fair says so much about him, too; he clearly cares deeply. It’s heartening to think he’ll want to be part of Alan’s life, even with the complexities that might come with that. How are you feeling about everything now, if you don’t mind me asking?
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